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well I am seeing a girl and I have told her that I

am totally into having a relationship with her, she’s pretty hot but I didn’t tell her that I am just going through the motions of a relationship with her to get over my last girlfriend who I can’t get out of my mind, even though she was a total ***** and nothing like as nice as the gf I have now. Am I a bad guy, should I tell her and risk losing her?

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 93 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (3 minutes after post)

How superficial, and selfish. You KNOW you are on the rebound… ackkkk I’m speechless. To answer your question - in my opinion, YES you are a bad guy… OMG I hope this is a joke post. I better go before I write something that will get me banned from the site!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Hey, I do like her, but I am worried that I won’t be able to really get involved because I can’t get my head straight. How long should I wait before I try to have another relationship? I am not saying it isn’t real, but I keep thinking about my ex and whenever I look her up on facebook and see she is with another guy (her ex before me in fact) I just feel so depressed I cry about it and it doesn’t seem fair to my current gf. But when I see my current gf I keep telling her that I am into her. I don’t think I am doing anything wrong, its not lying it is omitting to tell her everything, I don’t see that as being wrong.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (28 minutes after post)

uh you shouldnt of started daten her if your just useing her to get over ur ex gurlfriend!!! butt i would just tell her if you dont want a relationship with her, and if you do want5 one with this chic then keep it on the low

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (32 minutes after post)

I think it is probably not fair to keep seeing her, plus she is starting to ask questions that I have to actually lie about unless I tell her. I asked her all about her past relationships and she has told me lots of stuff and she also said she’d rather be casual because she doesn’t want to get hurt. But I said no way I won’t share with other guys so I know she thinks I am serious about a relationship. I’m not that serious but I am not going to give her permission to see other guys. She hasn’t asked me for a commitment yet but I can tell she will soon, and its partly my fault.

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crazyG offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 171 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (4 hours, 41 minutes after post)

I think that all what you need to do with her is to be honest with her even with the simplest question she asks. Why do you need to lie? You are not ready for commitment and you know she’ll ask for one. So just say the truth about everything from now on and everything will be easier for both of you. Why make that girl like you more and more and then leave her in the end? Just find someone you will really like.

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Thornbury, M6, GB | 5 months ago (5 hours, 25 minutes after post)

I think that what your doing to this girl is unfair, you might like her but your just using her to get over your last girlfriend, you need to be straight with her and tell her the truth it will just get harder if you wait.

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