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well i think that you should try doing stuff on your own for once join a sport or club or idk ne thin u like bt that has to be your thing nt his and do it on ur own…also get in touch with ur friends and go out eith them nd just hand nd recconect…if u cnt break the barrier the best thing to do is take time off i mean its not good to be so dependent onn sum1 cuz if u lose them then u lose everthing

wow ok um if this is a long distance relationship….then you should have your own life and friends u have no reason 2 b so wrapped up….and if he dsnt call dnt u think its kind of a sign??? i think u shld nt call him and wait till he does if he dsnt then check it out cuz sumthinz up

ok well u have to resist the urge ok u cnt give in…and u shld tlk 2 him tell hym watz on ur mind wat ur thinkn a couple is all bout communication….

Could you replace some of the phone calls you would usually make, for a text conversation?

Its a small step but you’d be doing something without talking to him for once. Dont your friends get annoyed inviting you out and you being on the phone to him? You need to realise that you being an independant, fun, easy going woman is a lot more attractive than someone who is needy and clingy.

What you need to start doing is do things that are fun. Just because you do things without your boyfriend doesn’t mean your a bad girlfriend or that your relationship is a failure. It just means you have your own lives…something which you will both need to succeed.

Why?

Yeah…i miss my dog lol.

He’s still in exactly the same place as you left him! Whats up? Don’t you trust him? Is he your first love…how come you feel so needy towards him?

Well that sucks. But no guy wants some clingy woman…even if he does love you to bits.

I know you don’t think or want this to happen. But what are you gona do if one day your not together anymore? You’re left with nothing but yourself. And thats the way it always is. No matter what happens in your life..the worst that can happen is your left to yourself, so you need to make sure your happy with yourself.

You need to think more casually about this relationship. It doesnt make it any less meaningful or loving, but you will suffocate this guy.

What happens next time you see each other? You wont have anything to tell each other because you talk to him as if your writing a detailed diary and dictating every word to him. You don’t need to dictate your life to him. There is nothing more exciting than seeing each other next time and being able to talk to him about all the things you’ve both done.

Bad things happen, but you’ve always got yourself in the long run, no matter who you lose and gain on the way in life you always have yourself. So don’t ever lose your independance because its the 1 thing you can rely on.

Well next time…do somethin fun don’t go to bed lol. Turn your phone off whilst your out with ya mates!

Go have a laugh, go out n jus do silly stuff or jus go shoppin