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How do you tell if someone likes you?

I don’t understand him. He’s giving me mixed signals. And others in the group keep butting it. I’m the only girl in this one class room, and the other guys keep preventing me from taking to him. why?
Does he not like me? Then why do we go get lunch together everyday?
Does he not like me even a little bit? He lets me play with his long hair… :P ?!?!
I don’t get it. But you know what? Maybe I should stop talking to him so much. Maybe I should stop falling back from the group as we walk in hopes of having him drop back as well to be able to just START a conversation with him.
Maybe I should stop buying so much food just to be able to have a reason to be along and try to talk with him.
The first time in WEEKS today…we were alone, getting lunch and going to class.
And I couldn’t get anything out of him!
I asked him about his interests…and he was so vague. Mainly liked watching tv, sitting infront of computer or smoking.
Is he deliberatly trying to push me away?
Then why sit so close to me before, when I play with his hair. Even after I’m done, he doesn’t move away, and stays sitting next to me.
I feel so confused.
One minute he’s serious, another he’s joking around calling me names, then apologizing if I seem upset.
We’re in college for ***** sake!
Why do I feel like I just dropped into kindergarten classes?!
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about him for weeks. I even ended up calling him during the week when he was busy partying with friends. And he then tells me not to call him again….
but then starts flirting with me again.
He was the one who told me to call him in the first place! What that was supposed to be a sarcastic comment then? You want me to call you?
ARGS!
Why are you men so confusing!
I’m falling for a guy I hardly even know with each passing day he’s driving me up the wall at the same time as setting me up into the clouds!

What do I do?
Should I just stop paying attention to him?
Or should I actually keep flirting back?
What would you do?

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Well, I’m no expert on men as I’m still trying to figure them out myself. But from personal experience, this is what has worked best for me in the past. I’d back off for a while. Let him come to you. Don’t go out of your way to spend time with him. Let him make the effort for a change. Trust me. It always works. Guys want a girl they know they can’t have or that they have to work hard to get. So that’s what you need to do. Play hard to get. Its the easiest way to find out if he feels the same way about you that you do about him. He’ll realize what he’s missing out on as soon as you stop paying attention to him, and he’ll make the next move in order to get things back to normal between the two of you. Try it and see how it works out. :)

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