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Friendship help!

I need help with two friend chains. They’re long, but I require assistance.

There’s:

-Bob (Friends with Bill, hates Mike)
-Bill (Best friends with Mike, hates Bob)
-Mike (Best friends with Bill, hates Bob)

For my first request, I need to know how to be friends with both Bob and Mike. It was easy at first. I was good friends with Mike and Bob, y’know. Then I learned that Bob and Mike loathe each other. Mike has good reason to as well. However, lately, I’ve noticed that as one friendship grows (Me to Mike, or Me to Bob) the other friendship erodes. Mike thinks that I am a two faced son of a ***** for hanging with Bob. Bob is more accepting, he doesn’t care who I’m friends with. Mike and me are growing less friends.

So, I want to re-strengthen our friendship without harming me and Bob’s. Doable?

Oh, and I forgot Bill. Bill is my best friend, and I am a friend in his eyes. However, he is oh so much closer to Mike, and would side with Mike easily and even affect our friendship due to Mike. Bill is kinda bad with Bob too, but is fine with me being friends with him.

In other words, Mike loathes Bob AND me if I am friends with him. Bob likes Bill and I. Bill likes I and is OK with Bob, but is uber close to Mike.

HELP!

When I get some good assistance I will post my other friendship issue.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 hours, 14 minutes after post)

Okay, so you have three friends that hate each other and don’t like it if you are friends with someone else? Have you told them that it’s not right to pit you against your other friends? And there’s not too much you can do about the three of them hating each other, that’s their problem. Sorry. But they don’t need to push you into it. Why not keep trying to be their friend and if someone has a problem with it then too bad for them. It’s not like you’re the one they hate.

Okay, so you have three friends that hate each other and don't like it if you are friends with someone else? Have you told them that it's not right to pit you against your other friends? And there's not too much you can do about the three of them hating each other, that's their problem. Sorry. But they don't need to push you into it. Why not keep trying to be their friend and if someone has a problem with it then too bad for them. It's not like you're the one they hate.

Help me with: Does anyone else know how it feels to be troubled about this every day and every night?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 days, 16 hours after post)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 days, 16 hours after post)

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