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piinkladiix0,

This person is 16 and is cutting them selves.

http://help.com/post/158345-okay-i-cut

And you are 20 and worried about mommy turning of your internet. I really don’t think that counts as ruining your life. Perhaps you should move out of your parents home and take care of your self; this way you can do anything you want or not go anywhere you want. Until then suck it up and do what mommy told you to do, she has earned the right to call the shots for taking care of you.

piinkladiix0,

This person is 16 and is cutting them selves.

http://help.com/post/158345-okay-i-cut

And you are 20 and worried about mommy turning of your internet. I really don’t think that counts as ruining your life. Perhaps you should move out of your parents home and take care of your self; this way you can do anything you want or not go anywhere you want. Until then buck up and do what mommy told you to do, she has earned the right to call the shots for taking care of you.

piinkladiix0 wrote:
With what money? I haven’t saved up anywhere near enough to do that. I neither asked nor wanted your extremely non-helpful and judgmental comments. I’m looking for away around/out of this situation. So, unless you have anything useful to say, I suggest not saying it at all.

A way to get out of or around this situation is to become independent, there is no excuse for a 20 year old to worry about there mother tuning off the internet. What you should do is spend more time off the internet and doing something productive that gains you money. Perhaps this summer you will save enough to move out.

piinkladiix0 wrote:
You have no idea what you’re talking about and you’re really not helping. So, just quit while you’re ahead. Thanks for nothing.

What is it that I don’t know? I know that money buys you your own place with its own internet and that the only way to get money is to work for it. So if you do not have enough money, the only way to get more is work more.

I also know that if your 20 and still living with your parents then you have to live by their rules, it’s the price you pay for them taking care of you. There is nothing wrong with this arrangement, but there is something wrong when you don’t accept your end of the bargain yet expect others to or get upset when they do not.

What am I missing?

So what if their spiteful idiots, your 20 and don’t need to deal with it anymore. If this story is any indication (ie you equating no internet akin to ruining your life) then I doubt what you have to tell me about your parents will through me for a loop.

If they brainwashed you into thinking you can’t do anything for your self, then you wouldn’t be telling me about it. You wouldn’t even realize it’s a problem, there for you can not be brainwashed. You’re just using this as an excuse, your not the first person to do so and you wont be the last.

I have all the facts I need to pass judgment. You are a 20 year old who is complaining that her life is ruined because her mom said no internet as punishment for not going to Grease.

Piink do you have a job? If so is it full time? If so what is it?

LOL - your 20 you can be a FULL TIME college student and a FULL TIME employee at the same time. Millions of people do it every day. Your lucky to be in a situation where you can survive at 20 with out working. Stop crying about it. It sounds to me like your just spoiled.

I doubt it is millions and it will ruin chances of getting a high gpa…

Millions is a small number compared to the population of a country. And countless people worked with out ruining there chances of getting a high GPA. I worked full time putting my self through college and graduated with a 3.78. And I would by no means count what I did as an ordeal – hard work yes, but that is what life is all about.

She is lucky, and evidently has not been close to anyone who is struggling financially…I’ve seen families like hers. Usually Daddy has a company and all of his kids end up working for him. I doesn’t matter what they dreamed of doing or what they studied…they are family property.

Very luck,

Well there seems to be a few choices. You could go to the local library and use there internet or get a job and pay for it yourself. If your free to go to greece over the summer it would indicate that you should have time to get a summer job instead. I agree with your parents that school comes first, but if you have extra time to be on the internet or go on vactions there is no reason why you can’t work during that time. I was on my own at 18 and worked and put myself through school, yes with a 4.0 and then later in life put myself through Graduate school while working and raising two daughters myself.

Don’t balme your parents for wanting you to focus and do well in school. Have you talked to them about you getting a summer job?

If their all going to be in Greece why would they want to incur extra bills for services they are not going to use? Your mom probably is using it to try and get her way, but it seems your trying to get around the issue to get your way. The general rule of life is if you pay for it, you get to make the rules for it. So I would figure out how you can pay for it… During the summer months parents are always trying to find good babysitters why don’t you get a summer babysitting job and then you could have the money to get the internet yourself?

piinkladiix0 wrote:
lol oh is that right? I’d like to see the grades of these millions of people. Can they maintain a 4.0 average each semester?

Yes I’m sure they can, I graded with a 3.87 and I’m a bit of a slacker when it comes to schooling. My brother and sister graduated with a 4.0 and where in the same boat as I about having to work and pay there way through college. They are more book worms then I am.

I doubt it. And no, I can’t work full time and go to school full time anyway, cause part of the deal of my parents paying for my schooling at all is that I CANT work while I’m in school. Happy now?

then pay for school your self, that to is part of being an adult in her 20s.

And it sounds to me like you’re some idiot who likes to talk down to other people to make you feel better about your own miserable life, of which I still know nothing about, therefore giving you no right to pass judgment on mine.

Not at all I feel sorry for you and realize you need help, but the first step is for you to understand what your real problem is and that it has nothing to do with the internet. So I am telling you what your problem is in the hopes that you will come to accept it and fix it. I am fully confident in the idea that you can take care of your self you just need to want to do it.

If you do have any planes to brake away from your parents and not live the life they want you to live then one of these days you will have to grow up and become and adult. It might as well be now.

As for me, I will tell you anything you would like to know about me. I’m a 29 year old from New York, in the context of this discussion I paid my way through college by working full time and paid for all the needs I had at the time including logging, internet, car, and food. I did so by working full time while schooling full time in a curriculum of electrical engineering that saw any where from between 18 to 22 credits a semester. I am also dyslexic which may have been evident form my spelling in this thread. Now I am an electrical engineer working for a defense contractor and I recently obtained my MBA in 2.5 years (a.1/2 year longer then normal) while being a father and provider to my own family and working full time. If there is anything else you would like to ask I am more then happy to provide the infromation.

The bottom line is that no matter how screwed up your parents may be, you are now 20 and anything from this point forward that you do not approve of in your life is your own fault. You are an adult and it is with in your power and ability to do something about it. My advice would be to keep things the way they are and take advantage of the opportunities your parents are giving you, but to stop complaining about the price at which those opportunities are afforded you. Nothing in this life is free. But if you can’t live with that price then only you have the power to change it.