It’s a trap. Don’t fall for it.
yeah i’d have to agree with kev, it’s most likely a test to see if you’ll stay faithful when you’re allowed to be unfaithful to her.
in the famous words of admiral ackbar: “IT’S A TRAP!!!”
stay faithfull and show her whats what
Alphaknight1087 wrote:
in the famous words of admiral ackbar: “IT’S A TRAP!!!”
stay faithfull and show her whats what
haha yay star wars quote :D
ya - i think so too but i cant be sure - she is just weird lately
See, after a certain pasage of time, people tend to take each other for granted or may be the way you behave or react goes completely predictable, and then you start loosingthe charm in the relation, this makes empty mind do some wrong notions about the things we wont…
I think she again wish to feel the same excitement she felt, when you met her for the first time, or wana agin feel that best hands together…
To do this you necessarily need not have any 3rd person in your life… Just do some small things which she will never expect from you.
Make her feel special once again, and treat her the way you treated her on the very first date.. and she will get to know, that she was wrong in saying that!
All the best.
thank you for your help everyone - i have to add this to the puzzle though - we got to talking and i figured that since things are already rocky that i might as well confess all my sins and lies to her (one thing) and hope that she sees my honesty as me trying to be open and honest about everything. right now i am waiting to hear back from her (we have been talking through text messages on the cell phone) it was probably a bad idea but if this is going to work then me and her need to learn to be honest and open with each other.
well she is taking it alright i guess - i had cheated on her once a long long time ago and im basically telling her that now - and promising that im not going to do it again and telling her that im sorry and i dont want to be with anyone but her
Imbeded in all that maybe an excuse to end your relationship.
Watch out!
Maybe she has cheated on you and she can not admit it but she may feel like it would relieve her guilt if you did the same. I do not recomend doing it though, Got to be the bigger person here
Ya, but I cant stand the thought of her cheating on me so I asked her if that was the case and she said she has never cheated on me so I am going to believe her and trust her. Maybe we just need some space for awhile or maybe it wasn’t meant to be. I am going to try my best but if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. I just can’t keep trying so hard and being let down time after time. I don’t know if anyone here has been reading all my posts but there are so many things that we have done to each other. It is almost like we both want the relationship to fail.
I know what you mean. thats tough one brother. It sounds like you really like her. She may feel the same. You may be just getting over a hurdle by fessing up your prior affair, This can make or break the relationship. If you want her you will find a way to stir up some excitement in her life without doing things that can damage feelings.
Shinkter wrote:
Ya, but I cant stand the thought of her cheating on me so I asked her if that was the case and she said she has never cheated on me so I am going to believe her and trust her. Maybe we just need some space for awhile or maybe it wasn’t meant to be. I am going to try my best but if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. I just can’t keep trying so hard and being let down time after time. I don’t know if anyone here has been reading all my posts but there are so many things that we have done to each other. It is almost like we both want the relationship to fail.
I dont know what to tell yah cus I can relate to what yoru going thru in a lot of ways and I really cant figure out what im spsoed to feel or do myself. I think the problem is you lose some innocence and you both close up and numb a bit once uve hurt eachother. You need to first establish whether yous till love her and whether or not shes worth fighting for. Once you decide that, then you work on the nex t step.
I agree with Snar if you both feel you want to end the relationship, you could either end it but youd have to make sure that you wanted to or else you will feel really bad later on, or you could do something that you know will amaze her like take her to see her favorite film or resturaunt or something, like someone mentioned before treat her as if it was your first date again.
Good luck
♥Lina
Well - I will tell you all the plan. Right now where I am its 2:15 am Thursday. I live in a medium size town so there is some things to do but not alot. On Saturday at 4pm I have a babysitter coming to watch the kids. I have told her to be prepared but I have not told her what we are doing because she likes suprises. I am going to take her to the nicest resturaunt in town(never taken her there before), then I am taking her to see this new movie called Made of Honor (or soemthing like that - hope its good), then I am taking her out to a club for a few drinks and to do some dancing (she loves dancing and getting out for a few drinks) then I am taking her back to a nice hotel where there will be flower pedals on the bed and candles and things of that nature(not trying to score)- at the hotel I will have some movies waiting from when we first got together and were dating. The next day we are going for a scenic walk on the beach where we used to run together when I was in the Marines and she was in the Navy back when we were dating. Tehn at the end of the walk there will be a picnic setup for some good eating. After that we will spend the rest of the day at this sports park playing putt putt and rifign the go-carts. while the sun goes down we can sit and talk before finally goign back home to put our kids to bed. —After all this if things still dont feel right then I think we might go our seperate ways and setup joint custody of our kids. - What do you think?
Shinkter wrote:
Well - I will tell you all the plan. Right now where I am its 2:15 am Thursday. I live in a medium size town so there is some things to do but not alot. On Saturday at 4pm I have a babysitter coming to watch the kids. I have told her to be prepared but I have not told her what we are doing because she likes suprises. I am going to take her to the nicest resturaunt in town(never taken her there before), then I am taking her to see this new movie called Made of Honor (or soemthing like that - hope its good), then I am taking her out to a club for a few drinks and to do some dancing (she loves dancing and getting out for a few drinks) then I am taking her back to a nice hotel where there will be flower pedals on the bed and candles and things of that nature(not trying to score)- at the hotel I will have some movies waiting from when we first got together and were dating. The next day we are going for a scenic walk on the beach where we used to run together when I was in the Marines and she was in the Navy back when we were dating. Tehn at the end of the walk there will be a picnic setup for some good eating. After that we will spend the rest of the day at this sports park playing putt putt and rifign the go-carts. while the sun goes down we can sit and talk before finally goign back home to put our kids to bed. —After all this if things still dont feel right then I think we might go our seperate ways and setup joint custody of our kids. - What do you think?
That sounds AMAZING, i think you should go for it, and if you still dont feel right about the relationship then you should go your own way. But i hope it ends up well for you
Good Luck *hug*
♥Lina
Shinkter wrote:
Thank You!
Glad to help, you deserve happiness anyway *hug* hope it ends well. i gotta get going speak to you later =]
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