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Shinkter

can someone translate something for me?

My fiance told me she wouldn’t care if i cheated on her as long as i came home to her. when i asked what she meant, several days later i got the explaination- “i dont know. its hard to explain. yes i want you to be with me but i guess sometimes i tihnk it would be cool if i had something to be jealous about so i could fight for you but then again i like knowing i am the only one you look at so i got mixed feelings” any ideas as to .. i dont know what to do . our relationship has been very rocky lately and i want to keep it interesting but also want us to be faithful to each other - i honestly dont want to go out and do anything with anyone but i will do whatever i need to - to keep us together

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kev4238 1 #
Raleigh, NC, US | 4 months ago (1 minute after post)

It’s a trap. Don’t fall for it.

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Luke.XIII 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

yeah i’d have to agree with kev, it’s most likely a test to see if you’ll stay faithful when you’re allowed to be unfaithful to her.

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Atomsk 13 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

in the famous words of admiral ackbar: “IT’S A TRAP!!!”
stay faithfull and show her whats what

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Luke.XIII 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Alphaknight1087 wrote:
in the famous words of admiral ackbar: “IT’S A TRAP!!!”
stay faithfull and show her whats what

haha yay star wars quote :D

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Atomsk 13 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (22 minutes after post)

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Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (23 minutes after post)

ya - i think so too but i cant be sure - she is just weird lately

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An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (50 minutes after post)

See, after a certain pasage of time, people tend to take each other for granted or may be the way you behave or react goes completely predictable, and then you start loosingthe charm in the relation, this makes empty mind do some wrong notions about the things we wont…
I think she again wish to feel the same excitement she felt, when you met her for the first time, or wana agin feel that best hands together…
To do this you necessarily need not have any 3rd person in your life… Just do some small things which she will never expect from you.
Make her feel special once again, and treat her the way you treated her on the very first date.. and she will get to know, that she was wrong in saying that!
All the best.

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Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

thank you for your help everyone - i have to add this to the puzzle though - we got to talking and i figured that since things are already rocky that i might as well confess all my sins and lies to her (one thing) and hope that she sees my honesty as me trying to be open and honest about everything. right now i am waiting to hear back from her (we have been talking through text messages on the cell phone) it was probably a bad idea but if this is going to work then me and her need to learn to be honest and open with each other.

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Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

well she is taking it alright i guess - i had cheated on her once a long long time ago and im basically telling her that now - and promising that im not going to do it again and telling her that im sorry and i dont want to be with anyone but her

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spiratec9 51 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 4 months ago (2 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Imbeded in all that maybe an excuse to end your relationship.
Watch out!

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royaljef 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (1 day after post)

Maybe she has cheated on you and she can not admit it but she may feel like it would relieve her guilt if you did the same. I do not recomend doing it though, Got to be the bigger person here

Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 day after post)

Ya, but I cant stand the thought of her cheating on me so I asked her if that was the case and she said she has never cheated on me so I am going to believe her and trust her. Maybe we just need some space for awhile or maybe it wasn’t meant to be. I am going to try my best but if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. I just can’t keep trying so hard and being let down time after time. I don’t know if anyone here has been reading all my posts but there are so many things that we have done to each other. It is almost like we both want the relationship to fail.

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royaljef 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

I know what you mean. thats tough one brother. It sounds like you really like her. She may feel the same. You may be just getting over a hurdle by fessing up your prior affair, This can make or break the relationship. If you want her you will find a way to stir up some excitement in her life without doing things that can damage feelings.

Snar 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Shinkter wrote:
Ya, but I cant stand the thought of her cheating on me so I asked her if that was the case and she said she has never cheated on me so I am going to believe her and trust her. Maybe we just need some space for awhile or maybe it wasn’t meant to be. I am going to try my best but if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out. I just can’t keep trying so hard and being let down time after time. I don’t know if anyone here has been reading all my posts but there are so many things that we have done to each other. It is almost like we both want the relationship to fail.

I dont know what to tell yah cus I can relate to what yoru going thru in a lot of ways and I really cant figure out what im spsoed to feel or do myself. I think the problem is you lose some innocence and you both close up and numb a bit once uve hurt eachother. You need to first establish whether yous till love her and whether or not shes worth fighting for. Once you decide that, then you work on the nex t step.

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Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Well - I will tell you all the plan. Right now where I am its 2:15 am Thursday. I live in a medium size town so there is some things to do but not alot. On Saturday at 4pm I have a babysitter coming to watch the kids. I have told her to be prepared but I have not told her what we are doing because she likes suprises. I am going to take her to the nicest resturaunt in town(never taken her there before), then I am taking her to see this new movie called Made of Honor (or soemthing like that - hope its good), then I am taking her out to a club for a few drinks and to do some dancing (she loves dancing and getting out for a few drinks) then I am taking her back to a nice hotel where there will be flower pedals on the bed and candles and things of that nature(not trying to score)- at the hotel I will have some movies waiting from when we first got together and were dating. The next day we are going for a scenic walk on the beach where we used to run together when I was in the Marines and she was in the Navy back when we were dating. Tehn at the end of the walk there will be a picnic setup for some good eating. After that we will spend the rest of the day at this sports park playing putt putt and rifign the go-carts. while the sun goes down we can sit and talk before finally goign back home to put our kids to bed. —After all this if things still dont feel right then I think we might go our seperate ways and setup joint custody of our kids. - What do you think?

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Shinkter 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Thank You!

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