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Question.. are you an only child?

or the youngest?

This is a long post. I would say patience is a virtue.

No I’m the oldest of three girls.

If I had anywhere to go and money to move out with, I would have done it a long time ago. :’(

Your parents are obviously trying to keep you theirs. They say “oh yea we’ll get you a car when you’re ready” But they are really saying “We’ll get you one when you grow up” And when do you grow up in your parents eyes? NEVER. With no job or car, this is a tricky situation. Is your school paid for entirely by your parents? or do you have any scholarship money? I agree with boomboy. However, I think you need to sit down and talk with your parents first. Tell them that you are 20 freaking years old, and that there is nothing holding you to be dependent to them. They are trying to keep you. GET A JOB.. forget what they say. If you don’t have a way to work, have a friend take you. If your parents have said they will kick you out 20 times, they aren’t going to really. They just use that to keep you in their control. Tell them, ok fine, kick me out. Stay with friends, whatever you have to do, but don’t fall victim to them. Tell them if they don’t let you go, then you will end up breaking out and going crazy when you do get out on your own.

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You are complaining like a child, not a 20 year old adult. Have you applied for your college loans, grants and dorm room for next year yet? You should of by now. Go and get a job so that you have some money in you pocket not your parents (Your money). If you don’t have a bank account get one you need one. Talk to your parents and tell them that you want to have money of your own and that you want to take more control of you own life. You need to stop complaining and whining like a kid. O yeh Your not authorized to delete any posts. LMAO the one thing that your trying to act like your in control of. Hope this helps :-)

Wow. A lot of what you’ve said sounds like my life with my mother when I was your age. I’m almost 40 now. You want to know how I ended up getting out? Packing a garbage bag full of clothes and sneaking out my bathroom window and never going back! Listen, I know exactly where you are in your life right now and no decision you nmake is going to be an easy one. There just comes a time that you have to ask yourself, “when am I going to do what makes ME happy??” I spent so long wanting to please my mother, but I think the only way I could have really done that was to stay a little girl. I’m a parent now & I understand how difficult it is to let your child go. But you know, after I snuck out that bathroom window, my life became my own and it felt so good. Was it hard? OH YEAH! Your decision is going to change your life and you have to plan for it. If you move out, do you have someone to stay with until you can get a job and get on your feet enough to get your own place? Do you have a professor you can talk to, or maybe even the bulletin boards at your school will have people looking for roommates. As much as your parents love you (and they do, that is why they are so “psychotic”), they have to realize it is way past time to let go, and once you leave, they will slowly learn how to do that. Go to school part-time instead of full time if that’s what it takes, but you have to do what makes you happy! In time, especially when you become a parent later in life, you will understand your parents more and why they’ve done what they have. Like my mom, the way they went about showing may seem deranged, but that may be the only way they know. Lol. Do you know that a few years after I moved out, my mom and I became the best of friends? My point to this LONG answer is: move out but plan it first, let your parents know you’re ok, and begin your life as an adult and learn what makes YOU happy…not everyone else. ;) Hope I helped! Good luck & if you can, will you keep me posted?