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I don’t know what to do.

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years …we lived together and because of our financial circumstances now we live with our families again. He works graveyard and sleeps in until late in the evening. He never comes to visit …I never get a phone call or reply to my e-mails and I only get to see him on Fridays. (Both of our days off). It’s been a big issue. I even broke up with him, because of it, but only got back together the next day. When we do hang out it’s great, but it’s just one day of the week.

I know he doesn’t like talking over the phone, but why doesn’t he at least attempt to show he cares? He doesn’t even write/e-mail back. I’m the one that visits him out of the blue, and he just seems so apathetic.

Any suggestions or advice would help.

Thanks

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DarrenRobinson23 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sudbury, ON, CA | 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

my advice dump him.. find a guy who will call you and go out of his way for you.. reationships have to be 50 50 not 75 25… you deserve better then this ****.. a guy who treats you right and will treat you like you are special and the only one and that will think of you email you and call you once a day :P

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DarrenRobinson23 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sudbury, ON, CA | 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

if your not happy you wont be making it better by staying with him and not being able to see him… only one day a week :S if i was him i’d be taking time off to see you regardless of the money problem

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XJ57 offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

My sister went out with her boyfriend for over 4 years and they broke up even though they were in love. Her boyfriend just started taking her for granted instead of as a gift from g-d. So even though it was hard for her to do, she broke up with him, and it took a few painful months to get over him, she did and she is happier now.

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DarrenRobinson23 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sudbury, ON, CA | 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

im still trying to get over my ex.. i’ve posted a few .. on here and i still do miss her but its for the best..

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Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "mail, Blue, Scientific Classification, writing, Week, finance, Year, Day, Fridays, Big, boyfriend, Communication, Problems" 2 months ago.

trippindicularbookin offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

Now I’m just trying not to contact him at all until he tries to reach me. But I just want to tell him and remind him again, that it hurts when we don’t communicate. But I don’t want to tell him, because I want him to figure it out on his own. I don’t want to seem like the psycho girlfriend who’s obsessed with him and wants all his affection.

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XJ57 offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

if you are trying to keep anonymous you may want to make sure you keep the reply anonymously box checked, but i don’t know, you may have just wanted the original post anonymous, just giving a hint.

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carnivale offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

The most common answer would be dump him. Dumping no matter what guy is well harsh. Some guys deserve it and others don’t. Ask him why he doesn’t repy back and dosn’t like to talk on the phone. If the answer is not pleaseing then you know what to do. It may jsut be a rough stage he is going through. He should be man enoguh to tell you if he dosen’t really care. If you do dump him because he really doesn’t care, don’t go back. Try to move on. Don’t forget beacuse if you forget then you are libal to make the same mistake.

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DarrenRobinson23 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sudbury, ON, CA | 2 months ago (7 hours, 44 minutes after post)

you do relize im a guy and iwas dating a girl?

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