Love help: Okay, So there is this girl.

XJ57

Okay, So there is this girl.

We dated for almost 7 months back in 2004, but it was a young 13 year olds couple relationship. She was in love with me and i mean in love with me for a very long time after we ended. However we were best friends after that and because of her my life turned around, for various reasons i was losing friends at a rather alarming rate, but then because of her I gained more friends then i had lost, quickly we stopped being friends with all of them, but we were then friends with an entire different group of friends that was even bigger than the first. The main group out them that was 6 of us lasted until this past fall. I took it badly when the majority of us all stopped being friends, and it really effected my friendship with this girl, friendship wise. Now she has been having second thoughts about our friendship, and has thought about no longer being friends, but she means so much to me even though i don’t show it and i know i don’t. She annoys the crap out of me because she is on the slower side, and i don’t exaggerate, she really is, but she means so much to me. Now I am trying my best to fix it, but I don’t know what to do. I really need help!!!!!

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God-King Rowass 2,202 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I don’t know. Sounds like you need to move on.

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Littleton, CO, US | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I know how u feel man. Friendships after relationships can be really hard and sometimes don’t end so well. What I can say though, is that when they do work they can be some of the most valuable friendships you’ll ever have. Don’t give up on trying to reconcile, but eventually if the girl is continually uninterested, it may be time to move on, as hard as that may be.

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XJ57 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

I’m not going to move on, first of all. i failed to be a friend because i let stress and depression get the best of me, and it hit me where it really hurt, the feelings of those i cared about, and one who i cared about most. telling me to move on doesn’t help the situation we are talking 5 years after the realtionship!!!! if you are going to tell me to move on, that doesn’t help me resolve the relationship, that is what i want, to repair it, not terminate it!!!!! i came here for help not the complete opposite!!! not you opinion your help!!!! call me crazy, call me stupid but i care about her too much to let her go, she is a sister to me not just a friend and an ex-girlfriend. to lose her would be like having a loss in the family. that is why i need help to fix the relationship, not advice on ending it.

js78stew 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

Friendships at your age are very volatile. You will wake up one day and wonder what happened and the next after that you won’t care. You are still growing up and going thru changes. your friendships will change with them. You will make some life long friends, and unfortunately you will lose some of you very best friends. You will realize that life moves on. If you and this girl stop talking don’t take it that you are no longer friends. you just may not be as close as you were. time has a way of bringing people back together. if its anything like my situation with a girl when i was your age our friendship is stronger than ever. hope it works out for you man

js78stew 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

Be there for her as much as possible. Don’t be a stalker, or call her a million times a day to see how she is. let here come to you.

XJ57 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Yeah, js78stew, I let that happen since 2005 and now look where I am.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

We can only be the friend that our friends will let us be to them. Don’t be pushy. be patient. let her know what she means to you. As young as you are this thing is going to be a back and forth thing. Don’t let it get to you. Believe me i know how you feel. Letting go is tough to do. I don’t mean let go and get her out of your life, but rather, let her go and be who she is. Show her how much you care for her, by respecting her. Trust me man. If you guys are as close as you say. your friendship is a life long one. It will definitely have some cliff hangers, and bumps in the road, but thats what makes life long friends Best friends for life.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

All I can say to this is that she is your past and your past is something very hard to hang onto. I wish you luck. Sounds like you ahve some pritty good reply’s. Its hard keeping friendships when the other person doesn’t care. Best of Luck!

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