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I need to make a HUGE decision with in the next couple of hours.

i just moved to non u.s country, and i am very unhappy. After fighting non stop with my mom asking to move back with my dad in america, they finally made their final decision that i would stay here. I just recently noticed that staying here would have a lot of advantages, however… i am given the option of move back or stay here. I only have a few hours to decide which makes it a whole lot worse on me. I would want nothing more then to move back home. But at the same time, there is something thats telling me to stay here… i don’t know what to do! help!

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~Lucy~ offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 66 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

where are have you moved to? have you given it long enough to see if you can be happy in this place.

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Puck You offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 197 #
Spokane, WA, US | 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

lucylocket wrote:
where are have you moved to? have you given it long enough to see if you can be happy in this place.

Both good points!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

i moved to japan. iv been here a little longer then a year… i really want to like it here so this wouldn’t be an issue but i just cant

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

its a difficult one you will be missing your family (if they live in america) and old frinds but after spending a year in japan how do you know you wont miss the same once your back in america.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

well… the only reason i think i should stay is because the school i go to is very good (however i am not doing my best) and i dont want to leave my mom here all by herself. my friends here arent anything special, no offense to them.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Go back if you are unhappy NOW. There’s much to be said for having family close to you. I traveled and lived in many places, but there’s no place like home. Usually, when we seek something elsewhere, we find we could have had the same thing at home and still have had our family and friends nearby!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

has your mum moved over there for work and maybe in the future head back to the u.s.
therefore your having the opportunity to see different partsof the world

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An Unknown Location | 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

I really want to just be like “yes i want to move home” but ahh i dont know theres just like little things holding me back.

my mom did move here for work.. she has a 5 year contract but by that time i’ll be graduated so it wont matter. And iv asked her about otehr job oppertunites back at home but there are none.

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