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I feel like everything is so pointless.

My life seems fine. I go to university and have few friends. I do ok. But with the few friends I have I am drifting a part. I have nothing in common with the people I go to university with. I feel sad…. nothing else… actually I feel sad because I feel nothing not even pain, sorrow, happiness. Everything seems so dull and boring, even those things I loved doing few months ago. I feel like I am 200 years old. I care about different things than most people my age. People don’t understand me nor know that I exist.
It all just seems so pointless. And nothing dramatic has happened.

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caroliina changed the tags on this post: they were "friends, Pain and nociception, university, happiness, life, Year, Drift, Fine, Part, depression" 1 year, 7 months ago.

Rain37 offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

What you’ve described are symptoms of depression. Perhaps you should see a doctor or therapist and just check that everything is alright with your health? :)

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Some people would be grateful not to have the drama in their life. But I agree, a little drama is always fun :)

Have you thought perhaps of changing schools? I’ve recently returned to college, and of course it’s a small private college that functions mostly at night for working adults. Or, maybe you too should be thinking of night courses if you go to school mostly in the day. If the folks your age are not working for you, perhaps you would fit it better with an older crowd? Have you picked your major? How far along are you? Do you have your entire program mapped out? - a plan? You are working toward a specific goal here. there should be a plan, and you should be shooting for a specific target… if you are doing this, and it’s something YOU love (not your parents) then boredom should not be part of the picture.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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caroliina offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Well I have a plan and I have chosen my major. It is something I like doing and my parents support me even if they think I am making a wrong choice. My health is fine. And its easy to say find an older crowd… it isn’t so easy to do so. And no… I can’t go to another university nor take evening classes.
Its all just is so pointless…..

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Richard Cor de Lyon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

hmmmm well, going to University is certainly not pointless. I applaud your efforts and wisdom to do that! I can feel your angst and understand it. Having seen a couple of your posts here, it’s clear you have a fine grasp of your situation. I’ll take your word about finding an older crowd, although I don’t really understand it.

The only other thing I might suggest then is try meeting like-minded people. I’m sure you will come across this as you progress in your major… but you might look outside of school too - an oasis so-to-speak.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 months after post)

Hi there. Hang in there. You really do need to find people who are more in tune with you. That would help. Easier said than done though. I’d make suggestions, but I don’t know the kind of people who you would feel had things in common with you- (art people?- go to gallery openings; do you love animals and feel working for a cause would be good- join an animal advocates group; you get the idea; you need to search for somehing that inspires you and gives meaning to your activities). Maybe you need to try out other university courses. I have two degrees- I loved doing both of them; if you feel it’s pointless, then I’m afraid perhaps you could possibly be in the wrong field. There are wonderful areas to explore and pursue in learning; try out some other courses: archaeology maybe, or how about the fine arts, or drama, or maybe it’s physics(quantum physics will blow your mind and change everything you ever believed about reality), or how about astronomy? Search for what you’d really love to learn about- that’s the key.

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