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I’m trying to think of something profound to tell you, Suc, but I can’t come up with anything! The grim reality is that kids in high school (or whatever you call it over there) generally haven’t figured out how to be nice to people that aren’t in their peer group. As you’ve noticed, how they act depends on the peer group that they are with at the moment…the good news is that in a couple of years they will start to figure it out.

The only choice that you have is to go through it. And, it really, really helps to have your own peer group to get your identity from so that the behaviour of the other knuckleheads doesn’t completely throw you for a loop.

I just noticed that I spelt behaviour the British way! And, come to think of it, spelt! Completely inadvertently…I wonder what that means?

what happened today?

Ah, yes. School isn’t the ideal place to showcase your talents, unless you happen to be a jock. Ironically, being smart isn’t going to win you any points over anybody, and learning is the whole point of going to school!

It really is important to find a group that you identify with (not necessarily at school) so that you don’t start to take it personally.

OK, the reason I asked what happened was your original post when full circle… you started with “My friends seem to treat me all different like …” and ended it with, “My friends are normally really nice …”. So basically it sounds like something happened to make this a bad day. Anyway, we all have bad day’s and I’m sorry you had one.

Gimli’s right though. Grade school… High school… they are not the best social environments unless you are a select few. Hang in there though… try to get great grades and get out early… because University can be a BLAST :)

that would make her a man-beater… not you a woman-beater. Your day is almost over… have a great dinner, relax and watch some telly… go to bed and dream of a better tomorrow.

yep… sex relations is full of double standards… get used to that.

I gotta run sorry…. “break a leg” (don’t know if that’s what they say in the orchestra or not… that’s what we say on stage :)

~Richard

been to school, got badly bullied, found out recently i have aspergers syndrome and i behaved and dressed differently. people took the p*ss out of me for it because i didn’t fit in with the crowd verbally and visually, so yeah, i was called the tramp of the class and got treated like crap. if any guy fancied me he’d have had the p*** taken out of him which led to a result of me bein beaten up by a guy so he could prove to others he didn;t like me because he said he did but others laughed at him for it. yep, he was so pathetic, putting his pathetic pride towards losers before my physical and emotional state. a total loser.

people think ive changed a lot, i don’t get called ugly atm, maybe do every now and again but don;t take any notice. people find it hard to believe i was bullied but its the truth, i was treated like crap.

the only reason these kids are giving u a hard time is because they feel threatened by those who are different and they only want to hang out with those who fit in with the crowd. anyone who dont fit into their standards most likely they aren’t going to make them want to know because they are tw*ts who only care about their reputation. this is because most kids don’t have high self esteem and worry a lot about fitting in and this is what causes all this fear.

I have found my school years to have caused me the hardest years of my life, and also i want to sue my school because I was just a kid very badly bullied and i was under their RESPONSIBILITY. but im sure many a kids have the same problem. bullying also happens in every school, im not sure ur applying if u were bullied but the only reason these kids may be rejecting u is because they are scared and worried that if they hang out with you, they;d be rejected by others. when ur away from school its fine, because no one is there to judge and they;d more likely to be themselves. when there are others about its a different story.

so anyway, i think if u want to confront these people, approach them individually, this is a witty and powerful technique. u will find deep down they are scared individuals who just want to be accepted but arent confident enough to realise they should be liked for the way they are.

I’m sorry…I’m going thru the same thing in my school…all my “friends” are either two faced or they talk crap about me behind my back and hope it doesn’t get back to me…the only thing that i can say is just keep being yourelf cuz you sound pretty amazing…stick up for urself…ok? i’m here if you need to talk… ok?
~Britanie

generally, the weak minded have a defensive mechanism to be harsh toward those who they envy. i.e. smart people.

Hello ɐʇɐɯɹǝɟ.Suc,
I can’t add anything else to this post other than what Ireland and Andy72774 has said

Ireland-1 wrote:
Hello suc,

HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

I am very sorry to hear that you are having a hard time, in school. School can be a wonderful experience if you are not bullied. The reason your friend (the musician) is nice to you only when the pair of you are at a musical event is because everywhere else there is this immense pressure on him to jeer you, this pressure is known as peer pressure. Unfortunately some schools have pupils who believe they have to be cool and in order for them to be cool they have to have their own groupies and pick on others that are not in their group. Your school should have set up a Cairdeas group, this is a group in Ireland in every Secondary school in Ireland, they are a group of fifth year students looking after first year students however that runs on into second year and if people repeat third year, also we help other students, this group is a voluntary group and training is done in Transition Year (which is a break between Third Year and Fifth Year). I would also reccomend talking to your Student Council about setting up some kind of anti-bullying group.

Andy72774 wrote:
generally, the weak minded have a defensive mechanism to be harsh toward those who they envy. i.e. smart people.

Yours sincerely,
Eugene