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How do you cut someone out of your life when you know they’re bad for you?
I have lots of people in my life that seem to enjoy making me feel bad about myself.I have lots of good people around me too,but sadly the jerks outweigh the good guys.Moving is not an option.
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walk away.. plain and simple.. i have done this with my very own parents.. and once you walk away… you will find that life can actually be happy again.
Don’t just cut them out. Let them know why you don’t enjoy hanging around them, and if that behaivor continues, then slowly stop being around them. If they care about you, then they’ll take your comments to heart. If they dont, it’s no big deal.
I agree with lil_bit_shi - walk away and leave them behind you. I also think stargirlk has a good point. Let them know what they say makes you uncomfortable and if they care then they will consider what you said and perhaps be a bit more sensitive as a friend would. On they other hand if you feel they aren’t someone who will take your comments seriously, then you may not have to confront them or say anything though to make that point. I would just leave them behind. I do believe the longer a person like that stays in your life the more you let it get to you or affect you in a negative manner. Let go and avoid them if you can and keep a nice distance. Find new places to hang out where you know they won’t be. Eventually they will fade out of your life as will their put downs. I eventually had to do it with what I thought was a good friend. I got tired of the unnecessary, nasty comments and bitter and perhaps jealous moments infront of our other friends. Although I sometimes still come across the particular person who hurt me and she phones and wants to hang out again, I have managed to do a good job of keeping my distance in a friendly enough manner. Suddenly I was just too busy to hang out anymore… really though I still hung out with some of our group as long as she wasn’t there or couldn’t make it, but I made other friends and found other places.
My childhood right there. Toughen up and show the motherfuckers ya wont be played anymore, take control and put yourself on their level. Or go your own way, do your own thing, and do better than they could.
Ignore the bad, revel in the good. Make yourself unavailable to the people who torture you.
i agree with VKei, i had the same problem as u & once u slowly
stop hanging around them and start hanging around the good you’ll
discover u can truly be happy again.
what works for me and it may sound crazy but write a letter that talks about all the ****** up **** they have done and how they speak negatively because they are jealous, insecure or both, what a TRUE friend, boyfriend, family member is & how they lack…and dont even send it. just writing it down helps bring closure n gets the ball rollin in getting these ppl out of your life. or u can post it in a blog where u dnt say ANY names but ever so cleverly put at the closing “if this hit home 2 anyone who’s reading this then it is MEANT for u” because they wouldnt get offended if they werent that type of person. just make the choice 2day 2 be DONE! negative, envious, insecure ppl can never see the real you because THEY are the ****** lames! if ppl arent smart enuff 2 recognize a treasure when they see it then **** THEM! tell them to keep it movin…NEEEEXT–> u shouldnt have 2 prove anything 2 anyone. worthy ppl will recognize ur light automatically and instantly and proudly promote all that u do n all that u are. just change their names in ur cell 2 the reason y u dnt wanna be associated with them anymore…i.e. ****** lame, hater, 2fuckinNegative,….if u can find a ringtone that fits that helps 2… and that will be a quick reminder not 2 answer. and when u see them out…dont avoid them, keep ur chin up, smile BRIGHTLY, bat ur eyelids and say “hi” and if they ask you how ur doing dnt say “good” say “GREAT”, “WONDERful” or “NEVER BETTER” dnt ask them ANY questions…cuz u dnt care. but never be mean…thats what they expect…confuse their ***** & be nice. dnt allow them 2 steal your joy, your happiness, ur inner peace. because whn u harbor negative feelings towards someone u are giving them power over you…they are controling u….and they kno it. show them that you are happy no matter what. “happiness doesnt come after the storm has passed, happiness is learning how to dance in the rain. YOU are in control of ur life n thats why u got dnt hang tight with them anymore and u probably never will.
I agree with everyone saying to walk away, I had a friend that was really annoying and I actually found out “he” was in love with me, it was not what I wanted, I told him over and over that I am not like that and all i wanted was just a friendship, but he started to get worse, and it was hard because we worked at the same gas station, so I decided to walk away and leave our friendship behind, he wasn’t a good friend, I had to work at a crappy place for a while but it got me away form him and now I have a good job and good friends and I have no guilt or feel sorry because I now realize he feeling my life with all kinds of negetive things, but now I am very happy and the past with that friend has faded away. Now I am surrounded by good friends who are worth being with.:)
Gr8 information everyone. Is changing your phone number a good idea if you are person that isn’t strong enough to ignore these peoples calls?
i was in love with smeone and he cheated on me , i tuk him back even after dat he used to diss me and ignore me he changed. even now he still plays games its clear he dosent want to be wth me. people do crazy things in love.he was and he is my weakness. im trying my best not to contact him. ive put notes all over in my room to motivate me and am determined to not let him drag me down. ders no point crying and wishing things cud be diffrent because these people dont care. i will be strong and i know i will find happiness one day.
I ended a friendship where there was some good. Overall this person was criticizing me and was quite hurtful on 2 occasions. I let her know and asked her to apologize. She accused me of attacking her when I called her on it. When I realized this person was making me physically ill I realized no good that came of it was worth that. Just walk away.
I have the sister inlaw from hell, I have never come accross anyone who is so mean and spiteful in my life. I had my kindness and genorousity taken for granted for years and I finally blew up and told her everything I thought of her. Yes I was mean, and yes I lowered myself to her level. But that is the only way a scum bag will understand, you have to go to their level and tell them like it is. I am cutting her from my life and even though it will be hard because she will still be in family things, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I only took her **** out of respect for my husband and his family. They can’t see how bad she really is. It is empowering to stand up to someone who really gets under your skin that bad and who doesn’t have anyone eleses feelings in mind. It makes you a stronger person at least I can thank the cow for that. But it is sad as every person who screws you over you build a wall and it makes it harder for genuine people to get to know you. You only have one life why waste it on people who arn’t really looking out for you, there are people out there we all haven’t met yet that won’t take us for granted and will be a real freind. So I say tell them to **** off.
what do you when you have an incredibly cold judgemental step father in the house who critises you constantly…i cant leave so how do i cut them off?
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