Love help: She says I’m too young for a double date, the movies are a ‘no-go’.

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She says I’m too young for a double date, the movies are a ‘no-go’.

My best friend, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend wanted to go see iron man this weekend. My mom laughed and said no because I’m too young, and if it were with a group of friends that would be fine but not with your boyfriend because he looks older (he’s the exact same age as i am). I’m going on 15.

Why don’t my parents trust me? My mom says if my dad says okay then it’s go but if not then oh well. I was sitting at the table when she said, “I know what you’re thinking, ‘how are we going to get to know eachother better? how are we going to do this?’ but you’re too young for the movie theater, honey. Sorry.” And in between tears and I just said, “You wouldn’t understand.” and left.

I love this kid to pieces and I wanted to go to the movies with him. I’ve only been to the mall with him as he is my first boyfriend (as of last week). I know with my stubborn mom I’ll never do anything with him.

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candycoupo 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 minute after post)

maybe you should go somewhere else with him (:
somewhere that your parents will accept

Help me with: Should I just give it all up?

Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I understand what you are going through! The other day I asked my mom if me and my bf can go swimming with my TWO bestfriends and their boyfriends! That would be six ppl! It was a private swimming pool at one of my best friends condos…She goes…Sorry honey…I dont want your bf touching you in the wrong way…(I am very top heavy so thats why she says that…and I have a big butt) Sometimes I hate what my body puts me in…Cuz I cant do anything fun that my mom thinks will lead to….Something wrong…I cant go to the movies becuz its dark! I cant go swimming becuz A bikini on my body with my bf is wrong…My mom is sooo stubborn too…Just go somewhere cool like to the park…Where nothing will happen…Ask your mom that…

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An²a 22 #
Springfield, IL, US | 4 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Secret- Oh, finally. Someone is in the same position.

I understand. I wish there was somewhere where we could go that she would trust. Neither of us can drive and she doesn’t care for my boyfriend, although he’s a gentle kid, and he came up to the car and said hello to her for the first time yesterday.

It annoys the heck outta me. >>

Help me with: So she smashed my keyboard with her boyfriend.

candycoupo 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

all of you have boyfriends!

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An²a 22 #
Springfield, IL, US | 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Yes. xD

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Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Yea you dont?

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candycoupo 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (12 minutes after post)

hahaha
nooope so i dont really know what its like. i wish that i had one though

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Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Oh its okay…You should get one..No you will! I know you will…:D!

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candycoupo 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

read my story. & youll understand why its kinda confusing :P

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Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (14 minutes after post)

An²a wrote:
Secret- Oh, finally. Someone is in the same position.

I understand. I wish there was somewhere where we could go that she would trust. Neither of us can drive and she doesn’t care for my boyfriend, although he’s a gentle kid, and he came up to the car and said hello to her for the first time yesterday.

It annoys the heck outta me. >>

Yea me too…Like now my bf just asked me if I could go with him somewhere…So I ask my mom…She goes yes but be back by 7:30! ITS 7:15!!!!! What can I do in 15 min?

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An²a 22 #
Springfield, IL, US | 4 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Hahaha That’s so funny. xD What are you going to do? Go to mcdonalds? XD

Help me with: So she smashed my keyboard with her boyfriend.

Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months ago (19 minutes after post)

An²a wrote:
Hahaha That’s so funny. xD What are you going to do? Go to mcdonalds? XD

Mcdonalds is 30 min away…I was like okay mom…We can go run in a circle and come back in…Im sooo mad…My bf is sweet! she doesnt care much for him…He gives her a hug everytime he sees her…She says hes cute too..problems

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countrygirl 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Okay girls, here’s the way I raised my girls. If they went to the movies I sometimes took them to meet their boyfriends. There was usually a bunch of girls and meeting up with the guys. I always told my girls until I had reason not to trust them I would and I stuck by that. They were real good to call me if anything ever changed even when they got 18 years old. We had a good relationship because we respected each other and we trusted each other. They did listen to me and I listened to them. So, go sit down with your mom and show your maturity and let her know that you can be mature with your actions. So, while you are talking to her show her that you won’t be screaming around and pitching a fit and right now accept her reasoning and if she still won’t let you go keep acting mature about the whole things and show her that you are growing up before her eyes. You may not get to go this time but you have to show her that you are mature enough to handle a boyfriend and mature enough to know that even though your boyfriend is a great guy that sometimes they always think with the wrong head. So, she has to see that you are mature enough for that to know to say NO. If you keep on showing her that you will eventually gain her trust. It will be hard for you maybe but if you can’t do that then you aren’t mature enough for a boyfriend. Sometimes go to the movies maybe with a bunch of girls and ask her if your boyfriend can meet you there. That will show her that you do definitely respect her decision and that she can trust you because you asked. Hopefully you both can have a great relationship during this trying teenage time of your life. Me and my girls have grown and we can talk about anything and most of the time we always could. Good luck!

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Joy♫ 730 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (12 hours, 37 minutes after post)

Countrygirl…That is exactly what I do! I dont get a attitude I do respect my mom! She gave birth to me…So she chooses how things go…and I cant help it if her choices suck…

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megzinthehous #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

You ppl hav tough parents! My dad nearly had a heart attack wen I told him I was goin out wiff my bf. But he is divorced from my mum and lives in London and I live in Glasgow so it’s ok, I only see him about 3 times a year =(. My mum is SOOO kl tho! She lets me go anywhere wiff my bf. Now, he is so weird as well! He asked if I wanted to go wiff him 2 thi cinemas 2morro 4 our first date. But 2day he said do u wanna go swimming instead! I’m so nervous. I’m not fat, I’m actually quite skinny and have curves in the right places but I’m scared lol. I’m only just turned 13 so sho ur parents this letter and hopefully they’ll understand!

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Anonymous #
3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

OMG!!! I AM SOOO HAPPPY! Well no im not. Me and my bf broke up :(! But he said he misses me! But there is this guy I have liked since 2nd grade! And I asked him if he can go to the movies with me and my friend! He could bring his friend too! (We all know each other!) My mom said I could go! We went last night and it was sooo fun! All I did was have a talk with her! Thats what you should do!

countrygirl 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

Glad it worked. Sometimes people don’t communicate and try to talk to other people. See, you don’t never know until you try. Have fun and be responsible. Robin

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