Year help: My wife took my son to her home country. - Help.com

Yea, you should not feel guilty. And you have just as much right to be around your son as she does. And it has been years that they have been gone, that is a really really long time. I commend you for sticking with it as long as you did.

Thank you

Wow! I hear your pain. Have you spoke with her about the sitution and about what each of you wants out of this? Communication is a big thing an can make things clear on what to do next.

yes we speak all the time. I do my best to just keep things civil. She is a nice person, She just realy wants to be in her home country.I went there and tried to stay a while, but there was not enough room for me, and the language barrier was getting difficult. My son does not even speak english now. I am really stuck here with out knowledge of howw to move on.

Love for a child can make us do amazing things…. You may need to learn the language or atleast enough to get by. I would suggest Rosetta Stone - they help you learn languages fast and easy. Don’t let your connection to your child fade. It will take work on your part but you will see benefits and be happier. What about a situation like joint custody? he could stay half the years or summers with you. If there is a legal issue about here keeping your child from you a lawyer should help other wise its a case of if you can’t beat em join em, in otherwords adapt to what you can not change! If you choose to move on and leave this behind you - it will never happen, it will stay with you the rest of your life and the guilt could destroy you. and Yes this is from personal experience. I moved on from my son being taken from me by my ex and it led to a long road of drugs, alcohol and depression that took 10 years away from me. I continued through it all to find him and sent letters to his grandparents when I found them. They kept the letters and showed my son when he was 18. He then contacted me and we are currently getting to know each other. I still have the pain from 16 years ago with me though. I don’t recommend this road.

Thanks for that advice. I can see the depression. My attitude towards this situation is that I am on the high road. I am not interested in being messed up. I did my drug years and put that behind me long ago. I do how ever know the guilt you speek of and hope to find a way to accept things the way they are. I am starting to believe that there are things I must have to learn before God allows me to reunite with my son. My son’s Mom is a good person with a good family. And they are all the way in south America. I have been stewing over the rosetta stone program. Do you have first hand expeience with the program? I got a price on it couple weeks ago,Does it work?

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Love for a child can make us do amazing things…. You may need to learn the language or atleast enough to get by. I would suggest Rosetta Stone - they help you learn languages fast and easy. Don’t let your connection to your child fade. It will take work on your part but you will see benefits and be happier. What about a situation like joint custody? he could stay half the years or summers with you. If there is a legal issue about here keeping your child from you a lawyer should help other wise its a case of if you can’t beat em join em, in otherwords adapt to what you can not change! If you choose to move on and leave this behind you - it will never happen, it will stay with you the rest of your life and the guilt could destroy you. and Yes this is from personal experience. I moved on from my son being taken from me by my ex and it led to a long road of drugs, alcohol and depression that took 10 years away from me. I continued through it all to find him and sent letters to his grandparents when I found them. They kept the letters and showed my son when he was 18. He then contacted me and we are currently getting to know each other. I still have the pain from 16 years ago with me though. I don’t recommend this road.

Like anything it will take ommittment. You said South America and that means latin baed language - one of the easiest. Infact if you learn a latin based language you may find you will understand a little of other latin based languages such as French or Italian. I have not personally used rosetta stone but have heard great things from friends and acquaintances.