Sibling help: Being vegetarian can be difficult. - Help.com



This post left anonymously

Being vegetarian can be difficult.

not because i miss meat, or because it’s hard to obtain the food to be. but because no one around me seems to understand or respect my decision. if my mother is making dinner and makes steak, she gets upset when i don’t eat it. and when i end up searching the cabinet for things to make my meal ( i can’t survive on the side salad alone) she gets pissed. she will call me selfish when i won’t cook meals my sister likes (she likes meat). people around me treat me like i’m ridiculous. i feel i have the right to abstain from meat if i want to, and believe in it so passionately. i don’t force health or ethical reasons down anyones throat. i do it for myself, and if someone asks why i will tell them. i guess what i’m getting to is… how do i make the people i dine with daily respect my choice?

This open post was written 1 month, 4 weeks ago | V/U/S: 112, 4, 5 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (12)

Replies (4)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

intangiblemissxo offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Lincoln, 00, NZ | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

I’ve been a vegetarian for…a long time and it can be difficult when it’s constantly an issue. (I spent a month in Uzbekistan, where it’s basically unheard of. At every meal I had to explain that I wasn’t ill or trying to be rude.) Learn to cook some tasty meat-free dishes and offer to make them for your family. Vegetarian chili usually goes over really well with my meat-eating friends. Make it with Textured Vegetable Protein (TVP, it’s a soy-based thing that roughly mimics the texture of ground beef and doesn’t have an obtrusive flavor at all) and plenty of beans and veggies (I like black beans and kidney beans together) and no-one will be able to tell the difference. Also try lentil and barley stew. A good recipe is here: http://www.recipezaar.com/207305. It’s really simple and my whole family loves it.

If nothing else, just ignore them. Don’t get a fight about it, just do what you need to do. Your mom should be glad she doesn’t have to buy meat for you anymore. Stuff is expensive.

Good luck. :) I’m rooting for you.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: How do you thaw a steak?
Anonymous #
1 month, 4 weeks ago (11 hours, 50 minutes after post)

Check out gardenburger items in the freezer case…the bbq ribs and burgers are very tasty…

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
cookies and cream offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 90 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (11 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Sheesh… understanding family much? Just tell them it’s your decision. They can accept it or… get angry a LOT. Their choice, not yours. You choose not to eat meat, they choose how to react.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Eeeeeeee!
LoveYourLife offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 1 day after post)

aw I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know how it feels :)
In the end, you just have to sort of put on a suit of armor and try to ignore the judging that our families do so well. Just remember, they are only reacting to this because it is different for them and they choose to see the bad in it. No matter what, stand for what you believe. At times you may think it’s not worth it and you’d rather just get along w/ your family, but you have every right to be vegetarian should you wish. Good luck and message me if you need some more help :)

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.