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Need Advice:

My friend has been hurting herself (cutting, brusing, etc.) and I told her that I was going to get her help if she keep this up. She went on and on blaming me about how Im ruining her life and how its my fault her boyfriend wont talk to her (she told him the truth about those cuts). I know its the right thing to do, but Im not sure I want to any more. I just want my best friend back. But then I think, what if she cuts too deep next time, and I want to tell all over again. What should I do and how can I do it gentaly?

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Dan TL offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
La Mirada, CA, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Talk to her again, tell her that she really meas a lot to you and you just want to help and you worry about her. Sounds like you really do care so if she still doesn’t listen, I think you should get a 3rd party to help. Talk to someone who knows these situations well, counselors, etc… Ask them whats best to do.

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1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

She will never be your best friend again if she keeps going down this path. she has an emotional problem thats only getting worse. Not telling friends life stuff is for friends that are not distroying themselves inside and out. Your losing her. Save her. She is believing things in her brain that she is NOT telling you.

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Just Some Girl offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day after post)

I asked my mom to call her mom, and she did. Now I’m going to one of our best friends birthday parties and I think the one I just told on is going to be there..

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1 year, 6 months ago (1 day after post)

wow, thats GREAT! I hope the moms keep you out of it and not answer her on who told. Thats sooooooooooooooooooo unimportant!!!! Im so proud of you!!!!! What a couragous, meaningful thing you have done for her! What a FRIEND!!!!
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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day after post)

Thanks. But the only other person who knows is another cutter so she’ll know it was me who told. Thats all im worried about. Just seeing her tonight and knowing how pissed she’s going to be. Its kinda scary

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