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try doing something that shows sacrifice on your part that can show her you love her. Try distancing yourself from the things she feels pushed away by, because u seem to understand the issue. Maybe ask her for one chance to show her u can/have/want to change, and if you truly want to be with her, then it can work out.

I would back off. i once had a guy who was really sweet but wouldn’t give me my space when I asked for a break to think things over, he got worse which then made me more sure that he was NOT the one and a complete FREAK.

the thing thats making this hard is that she is leaving on sunday for a month internship. I want some security that things will be better when she gets back. I realize now that i need this time to reflect on myself as much as she does. I am just so afraid of us growing distant over time. This is one girl i cant lose

You know you need to go see her one last time before she goes and tell her everything that you have set here and told all of us. Then the hard part is that you have got to show her you mean business and are going to hold your end of the bargain up. Then the whole month she is gone work on yourself and don’t constantly bother her while she is gone. Don’t be smothering her because women hate to be smothered. They will run the other way every time. I cannot stand for a guy to be crawled up my tail 24 7. The shoe on the other foot you wouldn’t like it either so she does need her space. She needs to have time to miss you and if you are over her constantly she can’t miss you. It’s going to be tough but show her that you cn be caring and that you do have a sensitive side where she is concerned and you’ve got to show her that her happiness means more to you then she knows. If it doesn’t work I know this is hard to do because I’ve had to do it before but here it goes “SOMETIMES YOU’VE GOT TO LOVE SOMEONE ENOUGH TO LET THEM GO”. We learn from each and every one of our relationships if it doesn’t work out please use what you’ve learned for the next one so you’ll know how to show your appreciation. We never know what we had until they’re gone sometime. Good luck and I sure hope that it’s not too late for you but I will keep you in my thoughts.

Please let her leave on her internship in peace. Don’t back her into a corner trying to get her to promise that things will be ok between the two of you when she gets back. Continuing to contact her when she asked for space will bother her more than drawer her back to you. You don’t want to lose her, but it’s true that if you love someone, sometimes you have to let them go. If you were meant to be together, she will find her way back to you. But for now, follow her wishes and leave her alone.