Family help: im done, i cant handle this anymore all im doing is hurting people… - Help.com

Don’t do it. I care about you. I’m sorry you are hurting. And maybe you have hurt other people; I have also. There is no one in the world who hasn’t hurt someone else that they love. We aren’t perfect, you know. But there’s so much good you can do in the world still. And you CAN do it. I know it doesn’t seem like it right now. But even when you don’t FEEL hope, it’s there. Your emotions change; hope remains. You can’t truly prove it’s gone. You can’t say there’s no hope. You don’t know what tomorrow will bring. And every day is a chance for you to change your path, a chance for something new to happen, a chance to live a life not for yourself, but to help others. And that makes a big difference! You are the only person who has lived your life - the pain, disappointment, but also times of growth and joy. And therefore you may be the only person who has the experience to help someone else. Stay with us. Start over tomorrow. Start to get the help you need. Reach out — a pastor, a counselor (sliding scales are available, I believe, if money is an issue). Talk to someone who can tell you how to start again. But no matter what you decide, know that someone right now does care about you and is thinking of you and praying for you. And know that God truly loves and accepts you, just as you are — but loves you too much to leave you that way. He’s so much stronger than you, and he can strengthen you when you can’t go on by yourself. Reach out. God will be there, and he doesn’t refuse a cry for help. Someone will listen.

This is ridiculous! You think your hurting people now wait till they find out some they loved regardless of what you might think has taken their own life. Suicide is the most selfish act on earth! Grow up get a new job make some new friends, I think that you will be very suprised at how beautiful this world really is. Good luck in life I know you won’t need it though. Your friend Christian

I can’t stop you or force you to hear me - I wish I could! But it’s going to be your choice in the end whether to quit tonight or to keep trying. You think you know what lies beyond both choices. You think if you continue to live, it’s a future of pain and struggle and causing others pain. You think if you choose to die, that will end.

You don’t know either.

“Where there’s life, there’s hope” is cliche, but it’s also true. Life changes day to day; death doesn’t. Whatever is on the other side, that’s permanent. That’s forever.

Don’t do it tonight. Write yourself a note of something you want to accomplish tomorrow - something that’s in your control (ie you may not be able to make amends with someone in a single day, since they also have some say in that; they must agree to it). What could you do tomorrow that just MIGHT make a difference? Even if you think it won’t, there’s still a chance.

Is there someone you could talk to? A hotline you could call? ie The National Suicide Helpline at this link: http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

There isn’t any need to make a permanent decision, one you cannot EVER reverse, tonight.

And notice that several people here truly care that you are hurting. We’ve experienced pain as well. We don’t want you to go through this. But you are strong enough to make it through another day, and you’ll have our support.

Dude… Don’t.

Minutes haven’t passed and you already have a community that truly are telling you that they are caring… These are your peers, these have had their own hardships and might even been on the verge put have been courageous enough to find hope in tomorrow and pulled themselves through the worst of situations.

You have a greater possibility than ever to take this extremely negative feeling, turn it around and use it to overcome this and go way beyond. To a point were you will remember this day with gratitude. The truth is that we need these hardships, as terrible as they might be, to become something greater than we thought we could be. Rest assured that there are greater forces in play (let’s not call it God, let’s call it whatever intelligence and nature that created you).

Chrisncai, we all can remember incidents where we felt hope was gone, where we didn’t want to live on… But today, looking back, wow, how fortunate we were that they didn’t turn out to our liking… Think carefully.

From a completely pragmatic point of view:
You kill yourself today… Some get upset, some get chocked, some get angry, some feel guilt (yeay!), some (as you mention) don’t give a… Years pass, and whatever terrible thing you’ve done is forgotten. Peoples life goes on, people are out enjoying themselves, and your gone… Your memory fades except for your truly loved ones… But they have agreed to the fact that you’ve died and live on with their lives… What the hell did you just achieve dude??

Flip it around. Let’s say you changed you city and cut ties with these people that you supposedly have hurt or vice versa. What do you want to do in this world that is not related to this problem? Make use of yourself and create a life full of joy and ecstasy. How? If you’re into helping others, go into a help organization and start saving other peoples lives, if you’re into sustainability, go help us save the environment, if you’re just into having fun, move to somewhere fun (Tokyo, Hawaii, Jamaica, or somewhere domestic) and just have fun.

ANY of those options beats being a pale photograph which colors faded away ten years ago and a tombstone which isn’t well-managed. And in case you have a heart (which I’m absolutely sure you do my friend), your parents (and potential siblings faces of expression when they hear the news)… … … For you it is a moment (if you don’t believe in the soul). For them it is a lifetime. Did they really deserve that? How would you feel if “The only beautiful part of it” go hit by a truck today and died or worse, put a bullet to her head… Not a good example but rest assured that you are somebodies “Only beautiful part of the world”.

And hear it from me, as your peer/brother, I care for you. If possible, I’d nothing rather than go out for some drinks and just talk about this kind of stuff. And I’m not alone, we all care for you…

Oh, Chrisncai. I’m so sorry. People are tough, aren’t they?

But you can’t change them. And you can’t take responsibility for them. And just because they are messing up doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They are just too caught up in their own pain to take care of you and show you the love you deserve.

But it is NOT GOING TO ALWAYS BE LIKE THIS!!!

I promise you that. Do you see the many people who care about you here? Well, that’s only a small percentage of the many, many people you are going to meet in real life.

You are going to have a life of friendships with healthy individuals. You are going to meet many people who care about you. And you’ll make a difference in their lives as well - a positive one.

Start getting yourself healthy now. Talk to someone in real life who can help you. Is there one person older than you who may listen? Who may help you find some guidance as you take your first steps towards the great life you deserve?

Take the first step today and just make it until tomorrow. Take another step tomorrow and call someone for help. If that person can’t help you, make a second call. Maybe it’ll take three calls! Your life is worth a few phone calls.

Get ready now, because you are going to have the better life you deserve. Be strong and start getting ready for it.

*hugs chrisncai* Do you have a place where you can go inside for a bit, chrisncai?

BTW, there are going to be people in your life to hug you in the future. And you will be that person that hugs them back when they need it.

Stay strong, my friend. Don’t give up tonight.

There is a saying: “Life never burdens us with more than we can carry…”

Chrisncai, all the best and most moving stories have begun from where you are standing right now. Make it through the night for me, Nutmeg, katwi and enigma’s sake. Tomorrow is a new day. You don’t know what’s going to happen. I’m so sorry to hear about your folks. I hate to believe that you’re caught in the middle of parents argues… I can’t imagine how hard that has been on you.

Your folks love you deep down even if they are under too much pressure to show you that. Think about the warmest memories with them. A breakfast, or when they tucked you in for sleep, or bought you something you wanted even though you knew that they weren’t doing very well financially. That feeling of them hasn’t changed a bit. They still love you equally as much.

What if… What if four weeks from now, all this is settled and you are back with her and she’s understood what you meant and everything in your relationship with her and more importantly with your relationship with yourself gets better than you’ve imagined it.

You won’t know until four weeks from now, why cut every line of possible joy that can come into your life.

chrisncai, you have too much going on for you to do something stupid, you know that too.

“bbut i neeed someoone i can always have contact and see whenn i need d it.” - That’s sounds like a very good definition of the one who created you.

But again, there are 8 billion people on this planet, 1,006,644 of which live in your city, there are many in your vicinity who will be there for you. Just open your eyes dude. Come my friend, you are smarter than this. We’ve all been there, so that’s why we are so eager to get you out.

You are a survivor Chris. Growing up in such an environment might have been extremely tough, but be sure that you are that much tougher than your peers. I think you will notice that there will be plenty of people in your life that will take shelter under your wings just because of the hardships you’ve endured and the deep insight insight on life they’ve given you. So you might be reaching out tonight, but people like me and others in your vicinity will be reaching out to you. Just bite the bullet, do something outrageous that makes you not think about it for a while (preferably not drugs). Once you’ve endured it, you’ll be stronger and most likely happier than ever.

Man I’ve got to get back to my paper, but if you want to talk about this, e-mail me your telephone number and I’ll gladly give you a call (I’m 25 and live in California).

i allways hurt people too so i know what ur going threw but u have much more to live for like seeing ur first child born like getting married and everything i know u want to see ur child grow up so dont do it