All That help: Please can someone help me on my self esteem and self confidence. - Help.com

What do you feel when there are people around? what are you most scared of?

u need to understand that your no diferent then anyone. I practiced this by remining myself that they crap just like i do, lol..they eat just like i do, ect….
u are not made diferent. and there is nothing you have to say around people. they dont know what to say either. they just try. just like u need to.

Self esteem and confidence comes from the understanding and belief that there is a quality about you… or some skill or talent that you posses that is above average or even something that you excel at. So you find these talents (even if you have to ask someone) and you bring how you feel about those into everything else you do. It is having a healthy ego. This is not to say you have to be conceited or anything like a primadonna… you just have to know I’m good. For example. I am a good actor. When I am performing, everyone believes my performance. People feed my ego in this regard so it’s kinda easy for me to see it. So now I know what it feel like to excel in something. I can now take that feeling and apply it to other area’s of my life. The confidence I get from acting… can be used to help me try new things… help me get up and speak in front of crowds, it helps me talk and listen to people. All of this builds confidence and the more I do, the more confidence and self esteem I build.

So the question is; what are you good at? Are you good at art, are you good at playing a musical instrument? Are you good at math? Are you good at standing in a line without getting mad (patience - which is an EXCELLENT talent to have). There are thousands of things that you do or qualities that you have… LOVE those good things that you do and what make you who you are. After you can love those things about yourself, confidence and self esteem are just around the corner.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

Hey i feel your pain. It’s a real fecker getting nervous when your around people and being shy. If your comitted there’s plenty of ways to get over it. One of the best ways is to join a toastmasters club. Its a club for public speaking and if you feel you need to get over your shyness it’s a great way. Another one would be to join a theatre and try your hand on stage. Either way Don’t get yourself too worried about it…..

just try to remember they’re only human and they’re not there to intimidate you for any reason most likely. you have to believe in yourself though first before you can surpass these frantic emotions you’re experiencing.

im not good at anything or any one thing….
but not shy at all. I try at everything and out loud. I am not scared to be judged hey if Jesus can be judged Im no better. I make mistakes out loud. I succeed out lod. Truth is I figured this is my life may as well get out of the dark and make it what ever I want. Hated that prison!