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Dealing with anxiety.

I’m tense a lot of the time, with a weight in my stomach. I find it quite hard to relax, or to even breathe properly when I’m like this. I also have frequent panic attacks, and little things are always setting me off.

I was just wondering what’s the best way of coping with it.

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Da-11 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

You should see a doctor, there are medications for this or they can be there to talk to and find other ways to cope. A lot of people have this problem, my mother and sister do, they both take medication.

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Opeth offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Ah, I am going on medication. I was just wondering if there were other methods to cope.

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johnjoappleseed0 offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

Sure are. Meds are aight to knock the edge off but they don’t address the issues that cause it. Da-11 is right you should go and talk to a doc and see wat they have to say. Meditation is a great way to curb your anxieties. i don’t know much about it but from wat i’ve read yoga is meant to be another great way.

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J 7 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Think how massive the world is,
how many, many ways people live, how life is a struggle for alot of people.

How you actually quite fortunate that you can go online and discuss you anxieties.

How, if you were for example living primativly with no internet, and justhad to survive and fend for your self, anxiety would be something you’d just have to blcok out.

Anxiety is there because you care, try not to so much and just do your thing….

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fletcher offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 132 #
AU | 3 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 58 minutes after post)

I know the feeling very very very well.

I’ve only had it twice in the past.. four months or so now, instead of every day. If you can just let yourself feel the thought thats making you uneasy and do what you have to do anyway.. I don’t know, it makes it harder for it to feed on your fear. Also, I had something called Thompson’s mood manager (for depression though, it may have helped anxiety also), the main thing in it that you’ll want to ask about it called samE (”Sammy”). That seemed to help even though I was only on it for two weeks.

What are you anxious about? :)

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Opeth offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

Thanks for all the replies.

sabb wrote:
Think how massive the world is,
how many, many ways people live, how life is a struggle for alot of people.

How you actually quite fortunate that you can go online and discuss you anxieties.

How, if you were for example living primativly with no internet, and justhad to survive and fend for your self, anxiety would be something you’d just have to blcok out.

Anxiety is there because you care, try not to so much and just do your thing….

There are times I’m extremely reflective and I do count myself lucky; other physical problems happen to other people, whereas mine is just internal. In a way, that temporarily ‘heals’ myself.

And fletcher, I have anxiety over several things: college work, how I interact with other people, whether or not I’m one of those people that can be happy… etc.

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Nj17 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
Peterborough, K3, GB | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

Counseling sessions and planet day after day of your own time. Your own time, thinking about your wants and needs, will make impact the more and the longer you do it for.

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nanny shark offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

Give me a shout and tell me to get on MSN when you’re feeling anxious. I’m no expert, but I’ll be here for you. :)

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Opeth offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

Every time I’m going through this I feel I’m going crazy. I feel intense pain, and I feel I could die to get away from it. I talk to myself and imagine telling everyone something to make them hate me. So no one would be upset when I’m gone, but because they hate me it’ll be easier to get over.

I go through something like this everyday.

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erin offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 76 #
Augusta, GA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

what works for me…is that I draw how I’m feeling.
I make it look really funky and weird, so I can almost laugh about the problem.
It helps a bunch.

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red fox offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Mount Laurel, NJ, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

hmm, I forget what it’s called, but like cognitive conditioning or hypnosis…basically exercise that try to re-wire your brain. There’s that and then there’s some kind of brain exercise based on repetition, where you try to continually train your brain not to react a certain way to a situation by constantly inducing and working through a situation with a mediator. It’s kinda like the face your fears thing. You take baby steps and then keep moving till you get through it. It’s very time consuming though and expensive if you’re working with a doc. The problem here is that you have to know what sets it off.

Most of this type of thing is just trying to reprogram years of learned behavior or what’s become commonplace as a reaction to certain stimuli. Interesting stuff, eh?

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Silverwings offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 16 #
Adolphus, KY, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

(((hugs))) There are a lot of ways to help dealing with this. The first one, is to see the dr.. and write down all your symptoms, so that they can better diagnoise what is happening. And sometimes it takes awhile to get on the right meds. and the right dosage… etc.. also, sometimes it takes awhile to find the right dr.

Just know in your heart, that help is available,and keep reaching out, until you find what works for you……

The feedback from this site, will help enourmously…..

One thing that can help is Valerian, it is an herb, and can be bought over the counter,at Walmart, it is calming… and you can get several diff. kinds of herbal teas that will help. None are habit forming, or addictive, they are all natural, and can be used, as needed.

Also, keep researching your symptoms… the more we understand about ourselves, the better equipped we are to deal with whats wrong.

There are also message boards for each particular problem.

I would like to reccomend a book by Joyce Meyer, called Be Anxious for Nothing. It has helped me tremendously.

And can probably be ordered from Amazon.com used.

Keep talking it out…

blessings….

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Opeth offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

erinum wrote:
what works for me…is that I draw how I’m feeling.
I make it look really funky and weird, so I can almost laugh about the problem.
It helps a bunch.

Yeah, I do find that having a creative medium really helps. When I’m not as anxious, I can usually project my feelings into a piece of writing or a composition, to prevent myself from letting it get worse.

red fox wrote:
hmm, I forget what it’s called, but like cognitive conditioning or hypnosis…basically exercise that try to re-wire your brain. There’s that and then there’s some kind of brain exercise based on repetition, where you try to continually train your brain not to react a certain way to a situation by constantly inducing and working through a situation with a mediator. It’s kinda like the face your fears thing. You take baby steps and then keep moving till you get through it. It’s very time consuming though and expensive if you’re working with a doc. The problem here is that you have to know what sets it off.

Most of this type of thing is just trying to reprogram years of learned behavior or what’s become commonplace as a reaction to certain stimuli. Interesting stuff, eh?

I think I know what you mean. Seeing as a depression is just a certain mode of thinking due to a chemical imbalance, it’s just about fixing that balance. I think you are talking about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I’ve been put on the waiting list for it, but the waiting period is a bloody 60 weeks. Besides I think I’ll be strong enough to fight it myself. :)

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Opeth offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

Silverwings wrote:
(((hugs))) There are a lot of ways to help dealing with this. The first one, is to see the dr.. and write down all your symptoms, so that they can better diagnoise what is happening. And sometimes it takes awhile to get on the right meds. and the right dosage… etc.. also, sometimes it takes awhile to find the right dr.

Just know in your heart, that help is available,and keep reaching out, until you find what works for you……

The feedback from this site, will help enourmously…..

One thing that can help is Valerian, it is an herb, and can be bought over the counter,at Walmart, it is calming… and you can get several diff. kinds of herbal teas that will help. None are habit forming, or addictive, they are all natural, and can be used, as needed.

Also, keep researching your symptoms… the more we understand about ourselves, the better equipped we are to deal with whats wrong.

There are also message boards for each particular problem.

I would like to reccomend a book by Joyce Meyer, called Be Anxious for Nothing. It has helped me tremendously.

And can probably be ordered from Amazon.com used.

Keep talking it out…

blessings….

I completely agree with when you said, “Also, keep researching your symptoms… the more we understand about ourselves, the better equipped we are to deal with whats wrong.” Every time I learn more about what my problem is, the more I learn to work out to counter it. Thank you for the reply. :)

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aeolian mode offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 14 #
Rocklin, CA, US | 3 months, 1 week ago (1 week after post)

Opeth, I also saw the band live in Oakland, I do long distance running and is the most relaxing thing for stress, next to a good women

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pink33 offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 weeks after post)

I have anxiety as well as my boyfriend. i find that taking deep breaths helps a little. if you are around people try to get away from them if you can. sometimes i drink tea and that helps calm me down. it really all depends on how bad of an attack you are having.

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Marti1010 offline Verified User (1 month, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

Honey, I have had true panic attacks for a lot of years, and I know about this subject.
The best way to handle it is with forced activity. MAKE yourself do something - anyhing, when you get like this. Sitting there worrying about it will only make it worse, believe me. Make yourself get up and do the dishes, go for a walk, take a shower, call a friend, take a nap if you can, breathe deeply and slowly, and I really believe this will help you.

If not, please, PLEASE go to a doctor and explain what’s happening to you.
Hugs,
Marti

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