Feel help: My teacher is treating me like his child. - Help.com

My teacher is treating me like his child.

I never had a dad, and feel attracted to the attention the teacher is giving me.. The comfort he gives me, and the signs that show he worries about me..

Is that messed up?

This open post was written 2 months, 2 weeks ago | V/U/S: 194, 17, 7 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Crying may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days. Crying is a verified member, has been around for 2 months, 2 weeks and has 6 posts and 23 replies to their name.

Post Tags (9)

Replies (17)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

emilyb offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

its perfectly normal to have these sort of feelings, but what does he do that makes you feel like this?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
arsefac offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

ooh! a little messed up (no offence). no harm in thinking it however - i just wouldn’t do anything about it if i were you.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
rstarzboxer offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

Ideally, all teacher should care about their students. Just make sure that it’s appropriate. Please be careful and talk to your mom about it as well.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Crying offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I dont really have any of my parents.
He calls me when he notices me sad. He tells me everything is going to be okay. He gives me praise and hugs if I do something correct. He is just there..

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I am stuck..
rstarzboxer offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you and who takes care of you?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
emilyb offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

rstarzboxer wrote:
Ideally, all teacher should care about their students. Just make sure that it’s appropriate. Please be careful and talk to your mom about it as well.

i agree, the chances are he is being appropriate but you also need to know that in life we do have people like this who come along at different stages and help ie youth leaders but you need to know that there is a line, dont get carried awawy yurself and start seeing things that are not there

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Crying offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

I’m 18, was raised by fosterhomes and my 21 year old brother.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I am stuck..
Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Nothing wrong with a teacher caring about you and giving you praise. I’m not so sure about the calls and the hugging. You’re 18 years old and in many places that’s considered an adult. But teachers know that there’s a fine line where physical contact and socializing with students is concerned. Although you like his attention, do you feel uncomfortable about it?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Crying offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Sometimes, cuz it seems like he wanna be “dad” role, which he isnt.. I had biological parents, nothing will ever re-place that..

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I am stuck..
volley_ball_bab offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

I think that he might be trying to get a little too close to you…maybe more that a “father.” Are you a female?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

Crying wrote:
Sometimes, cuz it seems like he wanna be “dad” role, which he isnt.. I had biological parents, nothing will ever re-place that..

You can tell him that you appreciate his concern but you feel uncomfortable when he acts in a fatherly way toward you. But keep in mind that maybe he doesn’t realize that he’s acting in a fatherly way. Maybe he just thinks he’s supporting you. If you continue to feel uncomfortable, or his ‘fatherly’ behaviour doesn’t change, distance yourself from this teacher.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
volley_ball_bab offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

And if that doesn’t work, then maybe you should tell an adult, because it may become too serious for you to try to handle. But don’t be embarassed to tell an adult because this teacher might get a little too much…

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
{VDLC} offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Casa Grande, AZ, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (7 hours, 55 minutes after post)

No it’s just a naturaual response…

i think your fine just make sure not to get too attached

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Anon Post!
Felicity-{KRISS} online Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 211 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 18 minutes after post)

One thing that I tell children is no matter how good someone treats you,gives you things and does things for you,you ONLY owe them a thank you and nothing else.I know your not exactly a child,but it still applies and if you keep this in mind you won’t be vulnerable to any control.It sounds like this guy is genuinely a very nice person.but you need to tap into your own intuition.If theres any doubt or suspicion,Just be careful :)

Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (20 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Felicity-{KIMKRISS} wrote:
One thing that I tell children is no matter how good someone treats you,gives you things and does things for you,you ONLY owe them a thank you and nothing else.I know your not exactly a child,but it still applies and if you keep this in mind you won’t be vulnerable to any control.It sounds like this guy is genuinely a very nice person.but you need to tap into your own intuition.If theres any doubt or suspicion,Just be careful :)

True.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Crying offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Felicity-{KIMKRISS} wrote:
One thing that I tell children is no matter how good someone treats you,gives you things and does things for you,you ONLY owe them a thank you and nothing else.I know your not exactly a child,but it still applies and if you keep this in mind you won’t be vulnerable to any control.It sounds like this guy is genuinely a very nice person.but you need to tap into your own intuition.If theres any doubt or suspicion,Just be careful :)

TRUE TRUE =]Thanx

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: I am stuck..
Felicity-{KRISS} online Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 211 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

Sure :)

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.