Listen, sometimes parents don’t see us the way we want them to see us. Sometimes they use terms of endearment towards our siblings that they don’t use with us. But, both of you are his children. Don’t take it personally because your sensitivity and your youth will not let you understand why parents do the things that they do. Tell your father how you feel when you are alone with him without your little brother around that way you will have his full attention. You feel invisible because you have soft and tender feelings that can be hurt very easily. Your soul is so young that you haven’t yet began to see how truly people act towards each other. When you do, it will surprise you so much that you will also adjust your way of treating other people including your brother and your dad.
Never sell yourself short. All the times that you have had with your dad should be golden moments and they should have a special place in your heart. Don’t dwell on the negatives always try to see the positives around any situation. I was just telling somebody else that your positivity is contagious. If you smile, people around you will smile. If you laugh, people around you will find a reason to laugh. Don’t beat yourself up.
You have to know your father loves you. He probably tells you sometimes except that you are so used to hearing a certain way that the way he says he loves you that you don’t really hear it sometimes. Pay close attention when he talks to you. You may surprise yourself when you actually notice that your father loves you very much. And it’s not going to be because he buys you things or takes you out to the park, the movies, or the mall. It’s going to be because you actually notice what he does. And it can be something as small as a face gesture, a smile, a wink, o certain way he walks or because he chose that certain day to be with you.
Communicate with your father. Talk with him. Don’t let things go unsaid for a long time because they will build pressure inside of you and you might explode one day saying all the things you want to say all at the same time that they won’t make sense. And, then, nobody will pay attention. If you tell him at the time that things happen, then he will pay attentiont to you. That is why God made him the daddy to pay attention to you and love you and hold you and let you know in so many ways that he loves you.
As things happen tell your dad how you feel. Tell him that you are sure he loves you but you wish that he actually held you and cuddled up with you. Sometimes we think our parents take us for granted but they don’t. We have to realize that they are busy providing for the family and teaching us how to build a better future.
I used to think my mom did not love me because she was always working and hardly ever saw her. Little did I know or realized that all the work she was doing was so my brothers and I could have a better life and a better future.
There was a lot of sibling rivarly between my brothers and I. We were always competing for the love of our mom. Five of us! Can you imagine her trying to give attention to all five of us? She was a very dedicated mom to us. God Bless Her. She still tries to give us all her love and understanding.
You will compete with your brother for your dad’s attention all the time. But it has to be in healthy way where you don’t grow resentful of each other or you don’t keep on growing resentful of your dad. You did not say if he was your little brother or big brother. You are not invisible. You are probably the cutest daughter any father can have. The bestest sister any brother could ask for.
With time you will come to adjust to your dad giving both of you the attention that you both need and want. It may not be the same attention but I bet you he tries hard to please you both. Ask him for some exclusive time with you. Tell him to come up with a cute nickname for you. I bet you when he does it’s going to be the most terrific nickname he can ever come up with. Go to starbucks together and talk there. Go to the mall with him. Don’t neglect telling your dad you love him; you sound like you really do love him. And, your little brother, even if you never tell him. It might sound weird at first, but he’ll catch on. You sound like you are wise beyond your youth and you are going to grow up to be fine young lady. Daddy is a lucky guy to have a daughter like you. Your little brother is even luckier to have a sister like you. God Bless You. I hope I didn’t bore you to tears. If I did, I’m sorry.
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