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My girlfriend loves me, however I am not sure whether i love her or love her as much as she loves me.
This is my first relationship, we met at college and it has gone for about 2.5 years. Don’t get me wrong those years were great but I am unsure that I love her and I am unsure that she is the one I want to marry, as it is my only relationship thus far in my life.
The problem is that she thinks I am the one for her and that we are going to get married, and again I am not so sure. Lately my feelings have been fading for her while hers get stronger for me. Another complication is that its not her at all shes an amazing girlfriend and any guy would be happy to have her, its all me and my feelings that are changing.
What should I do? Should I wait it out a little longer? Should I talk to her about how I am feeling?
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Hello anonymous, I’m also in the same situation with my bf of 2.5 years.
I’m also looking for advice on what to do…
Please be honest with your girlfriend/boyfriend before it all gets out of hand. The sooner you tell them, the sooner they can get over it and move on.
Worrying about it will just make it worse. Just put it out of your mind and go on with life.
I think you should definitely tell her how you are feeling, sometimes that can help but i dont think that people need to be with a few different people to figure out what they truly want, just try to do some soul searching and maybe she can help you out with the way you are feeling, discussing things doesnt hurt.
why work on something if it does not feel right, sticking in may mean that he misses meeting THE ONE
Trust me. Don’t settle YOU”LL REGRET IT LATER. END UP IN A LOVELESS MARRIAGE don’t waste you life. No its not ALL about love but it is about long term happiness. Do you enjoy her– and is she going to satisfy you sexually for years to come. AND this is your first relationship you are still exploring yourself and what you want. but do talk to her and hopefully she will understand. If shes not the undertsanding type make her break up with you somehow.
i need a girl frind from 18 to 22 years so help me to finn
if you love something let it go , and if it returns then it was ment to be , if not then it wasnt meant to be.
Hi, First Time poster on a situation like this…. I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for 2.5 years. And Its been getting pretty bad, she has a really harsh atitude towards me on little things, and if we ever get in fights it always seems to be my fault. And if I get upset about something she doesn’t take it into consideration, and it still my fault. If it was the other way around I have to be the one to fix everything. I feel like I am involved in a one sided relationship. She also thinks we can always got out and go to the Movies,and eat. But I am a college student, and I drive 90 miles to school and back. My job is hard, and involves alot of labor, not to mention it is 45 miles away. I pay for my own gas which is very high now. And there are somedays I want to stay home and rest after work. And she gets mad at me because I don’t want to go out, or I don’t have enough money to go out, and I don’t want her to pay for things like that. It used to be up to me to try to fix things between us… because I was good at that, but now I have run out of reason to be with her… and I don’t think its going to get any better… And now she is trying to run the show… and I feel driven into the ground. I do love her but not like I used to… She loves me and wants marriage, and more… but I just can’t handle it anymore… What should I do?
I think you should take a break from this relationship for 2 weeks or so and see how you feel without her
I’m in the same situation. What I’m doing is creating a situation where we cant be together. I’ve joined the air force. I have to move away for 30 weeks to do officer training and this will break us up for sure. So really its the circumstances that broke us up.
hey jUst tell what you think to your girl. She might understand. if not, she might think you don’t love her. admiting that you’re not financially welloff may hurt your dignity a little bit. But you can do soemthing like this. tell her that you love her and care about her. but what she wants is too much from you. you need your own life a little bit. I think she ‘ll understand. and do tell her that you love her
Hello, to both of you. just like to say i’m in the same boat, in a relationship which i’m not sure i want to be in anymore, as i feel i’m getting further and further away and shes always telling me she loves me and everything like that but then as soon as i’ve got my back turned she just goes and flirts around with other guys everytime. i have spoke to her about it but she stills just pushes me. So please could you try and help me with what i should do.
Honestly man if she can’t take your feelings into consideration, and understand where your coming from let alone listen to how you feel and then turn around and do it all over again…she’s a waste of time and not worth the heartbreak…not to mention she flirts. I mean seems like your wanting a serious relationship with this girl and she’s not doing her part, think its time to move on my friend hate to cut it to ya but you better get out before you really get hurt.
aright heres the thing guys. i am also in the same boat. And i admit yeh i came here for help. But after reading these comments ive realised we can only help areselves. Sure take advice from people but understand that everyone is different and reacts differently to different circumstances. My girlfriend thinks the world of me… Yeh im flatterd and i used to see her in the same way aswell. Now it feels like this relationship will carry on forever and im not sure i can see myself in that position.we used to talk about getting married and we would chat about how are lives would be years from then. And i wanted that at the time. But now i dont. I have big dreams and i have these visions of a dream girl who i instantly fall in love with. Its so hard for me to understand what to do because i think so much of my girlfriend and i would hate to see her come to any harm and it also hurts to think of her with someone else. I know i love her and i am very protective over her but i dont know what kind of love it is anymore. The road ahead of me is a tough one. I need to figure out what ‘true love’ feels like and hopefully sort everything out. We have are problems just like every other couple but i can tell you shes a fantastic girl. I wish you all the best with whatever you decide to do and i hope everything works out great for all who are in the same situation.
i am in the same situation… :/ it sucks. we have been dating for about nine months now and we are both seniors in high school. we are both going to colleges about an hour away from eachother. I just have so much going on… ap exams, work, college, friends, life… i feel like i have so much to do but she could be holding me back. like some previous posts said, she will get mad at me if we dont hang out… i have to be around her almost everyday and its taking its toll. please help… advice… idk if i love her anymore. she is crazy in love with me and says im the best thing thats ever happend to her. shes a nice girl but i cant see her in pain… i guess im afraid to break it off… but i dont know how much more i can take.
Am also in the situation, my girlfriend loves so much, she cares much, she buy all sorts of things to show me that she always think about me. we have been together 1 year and 3 months now, but I don’t have feelings for her and really don’t know if I love her and I want to spend my whole with her. it really sucks because I feel like I can’t do anything to end this relationship, but just keep on pretending!
so i got this girl she is crazy but the thing is when i first met her she was like chillest sweetest most awesome girl i ever met and i fell for her but than she just like we all psyco controlling clingy pretty much everything bad that i dont like and i know im falling out of love and dont wanna be with her but the thing is she is so in love with me and we have talked about marrage and a future together and i just dont want that because she is crazy all the sudden i miss the girl she used to be the girl i fell for she just isnt there any more and i still do love her and would be crushed to see her with another guy just im no ready for that commitment and i wanna like chill with my friend and talk to them but she just gets jealous and mad at me if i even talk to any one else or leave her side for a minute im tellin you it suck i just dont know what to do i feel like im screwed like stuck with this crazy woman
I’m 41. Ive been in three relationships so far including one divorse.
In my opinion, you need space. She is smothering you. You’re young and you should go explore. Don’t be tied down by a controling person. Separate from her. While you are separated, communicate with her your feelings. But don’t go back to her. Go and do other things. Hang out with friends. Mingle. If she doesn’t like it, tough. She doesn’t own you. She wants to though.
Women are pretty selfish people. They are good at acting in the begining of a relationship. Then change on you later. Then you feel stuck with a person whom you don’t know anymore.
Go. Explore. Your free.
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ya man dont waste your time with this girl, controlling girls are really bad and cause a lot of stress…you deserve to be trusted and to be with someone that will give you space you need. You are still a young guy and should not be restricted from hanging out with your frieds, do yourself a favour and get out of this relationship, there are a ton of girls out there that will allow you the space you need and that will have a life of their own. I think you are confusing her “controlling behaviour” for love, when you love someone you are supposed to give that person space to make them happy. You had a life before you met her, and you should still have a life seperate from her when you are dating as well.
I am in the exact same position. Girlfriend loves me like mad and I really like her and enjoy her, but she is smothering me. I am manning up and telling her tomorrow that I need a break for awhile. I’m sure she’s going to be devestated and I’m already nervous about it….but I think it will be better for both of us in the long run….i’m hoping she’ll mature and we can get back together some day down the road…otherwise it just wasn’t meant to be.
Don’t break up with her over some ideological ********. Tell her you need a little more space and start meeting new women, to see if there is anything out there for you. You might just be depressed or bored with the relationship, and things may get better after you send this clear message that your relationship isn’t rock solid. If you start something new be sure to tell her, I am not suggesting you have an affair, but honestly she is going to get hurt either way, so at least do some research into what you want in a partner.
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