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I thought he was cheating on me. so anyways he had his arm around this girl and he told me it was nothing but lately i still think he likes her and their like “talking”. he goes to night school and it seems like hes always rushing to get there…she also goes there, and thats where he had his arm around her. i keep telling him that ive been feeling like he doesnt want to be with me and if he doesnt just break up with me so i wont get more hurt than i already am. he said not to worry and i shouldnt think that cuz he is in love with me. what do i do?
If he really did love you, then he would make you feel secure.
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Where was he when he had his arm around the girl?
If u trust him, let it go cuz it could be as innocent as he claims… If ur instincts are telling u otherwise, u need to end the relationship… As long as you don’t trust him, ur going to be suspicious of every girl he’s around… If you really care for him and u want to be with him, don’t push him away with the constant accusations… U’ve already told him how uncomfortable the situation with the girl has made u, that’s pretty much all u can do b/c u can’t keep kicking a dead horse… If the situation continues, then u have to take action and end ur relationship…
he was at night school when he had his arm around her. like they were siiting in their seats i guess. and shes the only girl that i dont like him around not anyone else. and i dont know if im uncoomfrotable with it cuz i really believe it or beacuse he wanted a break or space before. see at first he thought i was cheating on him and things were weird between us. he tells me he loves me but i cant help to wonder if maybe hes just saying that so i stop bugging him. i didne cheat on him…but i understand how when someone ays that you cant help but get curious and act funny. we dont spend too much time together cuz of his aunt and i just dont know what to do
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he was at night school when he had his arm around her. like they were siiting in their seats i guess. and shes the only girl that i dont like him around not anyone else. and i dont know if im uncoomfrotable with it cuz i really believe it or beacuse he wanted a break or space before. see at first he thought i was cheating on him and things were weird between us. he tells me he loves me but i cant help to wonder if maybe hes just saying that so i stop bugging him. i didne cheat on him…but i understand how when someone ays that you cant help but get curious and act funny. we dont spend too much time together cuz of his aunt and i just dont know what to do
u both seem to have real trust issues… Is this relationship important enough to try couples’ therapy? if u both really want to be together, u have to learn to communicate and accept…. He’s gotta trust u, likewise u’ve gotta trust him…
i trust him i really do…and after he told me not to worry about that girl…i havent been as much…but its the way he acts. like it just seems like he doesnt want to be with me. he says thats not true and i should stop thinking that he said dont worry. he knows i like it when he kises me on the cheek …and hes been doing it a lot lately. but i dont know if its been to keep me form worying or cuz he genuinly means it.
It does seem that he’s trying to reassure you, plus you gave him the opportunity to come clean and break up if he wanted to… yet he doesn’t want to. I know I wouldn’t feel comfortable to see my partner with his arm around some girl either… but how was it they were sitting… was it like his arm was up on the back of his chair as he talked to her? I mean, I guess it’s obvious he does like her somewhat, but yet he has reassured you that he loves you… so it could be purely platonic. Anyway, you’ve said your piece to him, and I think you probably should just let it go now rather than bug him more about it, as that can also drive someone away. Try to put your faith in what he tells you and focus on the relationship between you two… that is what will hold things together for you either which way!!
according to my friend his arm was actually around her. and ive told him to stop talking to her and he said ok. but lately he wants to hang out with his friends more, and its just wierd. but idk if its weird cuz it is or because this is the first time that weve been together that he actually wants to hang out with his friends. but it seems like he rushes to get to night school. where she goes to . and according to ppl she is kind of a ****. so maybe theyre doing something there.
honestly, do you think he wants to break up with me or is cheating on me, or is it all in my head
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I thought my boyfriend was cheating on me. so anyways he had his arm around this girl and he told me it was nothing but lately i still think he likes her and their like “talking”. he goes to night school and it seems like hes always rushing to get there…she also goes there, and thats where he had his arm around her. i keep telling him that ive been feeling like he doesnt want to be with me and if he doesnt just break up with me so i wont get more hurt than i already am. he said not to worry and i shouldnt think that cuz he is in love with me. what do i do? ive been feeling so bad this whole week, and ive told him but it doesnt seem like anything is changing.
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Putting his arm around that other girl doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating…he’s agreed to stop talking to her. He’s tried to reassure you that everything is ok with the two of you. That should be enough to make you see that he wants to be with you. If you have any doubt about what he says, whether real or imagined, that you can’t seem to get past, maybe you shouldn’t be with him.
It seems to me if he reallly wanted to break up he would have taken the opportunity rather than continuing to say he loves you!! Perhaps he’s just a very friendly kind of person who does things like that but yet it doesn’t really mean anything ??? I can understand your concern, defiitely… you’re not crazy… but he does seem to be reassuring you it’s nothing… so… it’s probably nothing!! It seems he wants to be with you…. so try your best not to worry anymore and focus on a good relationship between the two of you instead!
Maybe he doesnt know what love is and trying to lie to you so you wont make a big deal and maybe just wants to be with here for a bit and string either you or her along, but i hope you dont get hurt, i would definitely feel hurt also
well i called him tonight and he told me he loved me and he also realized i think that that girl he was tlaking to was full of it….cuz she tried to tell him i flipped her off but i didnt and he knows i didnt cuz he was right there. im feeling a lot better and we talked about it alot. he invited me over tonght but unfortunately i couldnt go cuz i had to work later than i thought. anyways were good right now. but thanks to everybody who replied to me cuz honestly it helped a lot. more than i ever could think
Glad you two talked about it!!! It sure seems he really loves you…. I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better!!
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