friends help: how do you get over a guy once and for all? - Help.com

Hmmm…this is a tough one. Getting over someone is really hard, but the best thing for it is distance. You need to distance yourself from him (even if you don’t want to) because the more you are around him the longer you will continue to like him. I’m not saying you can never speak to him…but you need to keep yourself from getting attached again. Don’t worry, things do get easier but it will take time. Good luck! And if you don’t mind me asking….you said that you guys went on dates and stuff…did you guys ever kiss (or whatever) and did he ever give you hints on what he felt? You don’t have to answer, its just me being curious. I know you can do this, good luck!

by loving someone else

here’s a short history of the friendship:

known him for 5 years, but became real friends only this fall when we did running together at school
before i liked him, he and i and some other kids from the running team played spin the bottle/truth or dare and he kissed me on the cheek (but that doesn’t count)
we exchanged emails so i could send him some picture, but then we started chatting and the emails got longer and longer and looonnnngggeeerrr…
we love the same kind of music so as running ended in november, he began lending me all his cds
at the end of november he asked me for my number and after that we spoke on the phone about 7 or 8 times. most of the time he called me, although i called him twice.
we always ended up talking for about 2-4 hours on the phone, late into the night. the first time he called, he invited me over to “meet his parents” and he also invited me to go into the city, just the two of us. both plans fell through, but we ended up going to the mall together, and to the movies. both were group activites, but i got time with just him during each.
he started acting weird in january and things just got worse from there…i miss my friend, but we haven’t had a real conversation in months, so i’ve got the distance thing down.

Time. Plain and Simple.

rstarzboxer wrote:
Time. Plain and Simple.

no time does not work

no time does not work[/quote]

time doesn’t work. it’s been more than 3 months and i still cry at least once a week.

Time is just that….you need more Time. Trust me, I am not new to this, I have been through it before- Time is what you need.

I imagine you used to cry even more 3 months ago…. time is healing but time is slow.

I know you might not want to get over him…but you HAVE to…it’ll just cause more heartache in the end if you don’t. Maybe oneday you’ll be able to be friends again….but you must give it time.