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I have been with my fella for a year and love him to pieces.

His best friend has also been with a girl for a few months in this time. I became friends with his g/f and then they split up.
I don’t know what to do because for some reason whenever she bad mouths her ex I cant stop myself bad mouthing my guy. We have been through a rough time lately.
Recently I found out that she had been telling her ex things I had said and he had been feeding it back to my guy. I denied it.
Now I don’t know what to do because I feel so guilty and I also let slip about something my b/f had told me about her ex. It’s caused a lot of tension and I am worried that my guy won’t want to be with me anymore coz he will think I am ******** all the time.
Any advice?

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Dance w/me Cristiano offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 33 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

keep everything to urself, and u’ll be better

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♥Rαvεr♥ offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 344 #
Tamworth, 43, GB | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

Well your worried about what your fella will think. Instead of worrying you need to ask him/talk to him. Its the only thing you can do right now.

Talk through any issues you have with any of them. And don’t tell them things the other people have said because thats stirring up trouble and i see you don’t want to be seen as someone who is like that so you need to be careful hun.

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rstarzboxer offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Your “friend” shouldn’t have let your conversation go beyond the two of you. Why would she do something like that? Maybe she is jealous that you are still with your fella and she isn’t?

I would keep my mouth shut, she obviously isn’t a friend you can “girl talk” with.

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1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Did you get your e-mail fixed or do you need more help?

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cattail offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 94 #
Newark, NJ, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Well, it seems that everyone is blabbing to everyone, so you aren’t the only one who made a mistake here… even your bf is feeding off gossip from this other guy, so how can he get mad at you? He’s doing it too. At least now you know that you can’t share certain things with her… you might even want to say “thanks a lot” for telling her ex things you shared with her…. that it got back to your bf. And as a general rule, try not to share personal things other people have shared with you with anyone else…. it’s really up to THEM who they want to share things with, and if they trusted you with something, it’s not for you to tell others. But I know we’ve all made that mistake at some point in our lives…. now you know.

If your guy says anything, just tell him you learned your lesson and will be careful who you trust anymore and what you share!

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kittyknox offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Apologize, talk to him about it and never do it again

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