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So this guy has been stalking me quite a bit recently.

In fact, I saw him everyday (he wasn’t very skilled at stalking secretly). After a while of this I gradually began to get to know him better. I found myself thinking he was very good looking, and now I am head over heels for him. So question, is it normal to fall for your stalker? Could we form a healthy relationship together?

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erin offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 151 #
Augusta, GA, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

If he’s stalking you, he obviously likes you in some way.
I a relationship could work.

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erin offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 151 #
Augusta, GA, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

oops!
“I THINK a relationship could work”

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rstarzboxer offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

If this guy has truly been stalking you…. you need to be careful, what would happen if the relationship didn’t work? Would he leave you alone or could this turn into something undesirable?

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Goodfella offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 57 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

I don’t know but it is interesting , as long as you stay safe .

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1 month, 4 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I’m worried that if I broke up with him he might begin to stalk me again…

or what if during our relationship he stalked someone else?

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rstarzboxer offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

I don’t think it would be healthy or even safe for you to go there. Leave it alone and hope he disappears.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

he attends my school, so I don’t think he is really dangerous.

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rstarzboxer offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Any kid in school that is considered to be a “stalker” is obviously not level headed.

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 115 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
he attends my school, so I don’t think he is really dangerous.

he probably isn’t.
I suggest you stalk him.You will find that enlightning.
He will probably confront you about it.And maybe ask you are you stalking me.
You should answer with a question “are you stalking me”?

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 115 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (34 minutes after post)

please let us know how this turns out whatever you do.

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chev.jame offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 13 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Could you better define “stalking”? Does he shadow your every move, or was he just trying to get a glimpse of you? But stalking, per se, is obsessive behavior, and you don’t want someone with an obsession!

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Nutmeg offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 26 minutes after post)

Depends on what you mean by stalking lol… my friends and I stalk guys all the time, and we’re really bad at it… but our way isn’t actually creepy, and it doesn’t mean we’re obsessed.
So I agree… go stalk him :) Maybe you’ll learn something, its fun, and who knows? Could be you’ll end up with a great relationship. Just cuz he followed you around school, doesn’t mean he gets obsessive :D

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

well, he stalks me after school as well

I did indeed see him today, and I followed him around a bit but he didnt seem to notice..

and all I discovered was that he eats hotdogs for lunch and then goes home.

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