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i feel really sad about this.

i used to be really good friends with someone, but now they only talk to me online, where no one else can know. and that’s only when i write to him/her first. i feel like this person is embarassed by me or something, or just doesn’t want to be my friend anymore.
i’m really sad about it, because our friendship was so good before. we used to tell each other all our problems and help each other out. we were just really close.
now it seems like this person would rather hang out with my sister than me.

should i just forget about this person and find another best friend?

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erin offline Verified User (8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 151 #
Augusta, GA, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

I’m sorry this happened.
Do you know what caused him/her to avoid you?

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piinkladiix0 offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

I have been exactly where you are. I had a friend who for a long time I considered to be one of my best guy friends… but after high school started, he starting talking to me in public less and less, and treated me like a stranger in front of his other friends. And I always had to be the one to initiate conversations on line, otherwise he’d never IM me. I confronted him many times about it so he knew exactly how I felt, but he always found a way to deny it or make excuses for himself, or even worse, pretend like he had no idea what I was talking about. It is really sad, because we were so close for so long and it seemed like he just stopped caring over night. We told each other so many personal things about oursevles, that we would never trust anyone else enough to tell them, but I guess the friendship didn’t mean as much to him as it meant to me. After some time, we completely grew apart. I haven’t seen or heard from him in two years since we graduated High School. I IM him on occasion to wish him a happy birthday, but he usually only replies with one word answers. I never got over this myself, so I don’t know how great advice I can give you, but I will tell you this. Anyone who treats you like that isn’t worth your friendship. If this person wants to keep you as a friend let them fight for your friendship. There’s no reason why should be doing all the work to keep the friendship going. A friendship has to go both ways otherwise there is no point to it. Find someone new and better… someone who is actually worth your time. And if this so called friend of yours doesn’t make any effort to keep you as a friend, well then its their loss, isn’t it? You’re much better off without them.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

to erinum:
i don’t know. it just kind of randomly happened.

to piinkladiix:
thanks. it helps to know i’m not the only one, and i’m sorry about your friend as well. you’re right though. i should find someone who values the friendship as well, because it should go both ways. thanks so much.

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piinkladiix0 offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

You’re very welcome. However, before you completely give up on him, I suggest confronting him about it first. See what he has to say for himself — if he apologizes or not, or if he gives you a reasonable explanation for his behavior. But if he reacts obliviously like my friend did and deny ever doing anything of the sort, then you know he doesn’t care and its time to move on. I’m glad I could help. :)

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Larry G offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Washburn, ND, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (9 hours, 31 minutes after post)

If you are talking on line, ask them to be honest with you about why they no longer seem as friendly with you.

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TOMALO0 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (22 hours, 58 minutes after post)

My boyfriend diey my baby but he still calling me.

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TOMALO0 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (22 hours, 59 minutes after post)

My boyfriend dines my baby but he still calling me.

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piinkladiix0 offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (23 hours, 3 minutes after post)

TOMALO0 wrote:
My boyfriend dines my baby but he still calling me.

What does that mean?

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Larry G offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Washburn, ND, US | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

I think she meant denies my baby.

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piinkladiix0 offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

I still don’t get it. What does she mean by ‘denies her baby’?

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