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I believe myself to be hypersensitive to negative reactions, and i do constantly fantasize about them.

I believe people are looking at me all the time, when i’m not looking at them –and if they’re not looking at me when i’m looking at them, i feel that i’m being ignored.
I feel that my smiles are fake. when i instinctly smile to give enphasis to a ‘Thank you’ or a ‘Good day’, my facial muscles grind to a smilie expression. I think people can tell at most times. I don’t know if they notice. i don’t think they would notice, rationally.
Do you guys think about, for 5, 10, 20 minutes about some random thing you did wrong to a stranger that you could’ve done right? A not-so-good impression or a clumsy nervous act? I think about it. for a bit more than i ought to.
I’m really tired of this, i think there’s something in my core behind all of this and i can’t find it. or deal with it. I give too much value to people that don’t really care.

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rstarzboxer offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Sounds like lack of self esteem/pride/confidence. Learn to like yourself and you won’t care what others around you think.

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Plox Nork offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (6 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Social anxiety. And perhaps a bit of paranoia.

You’re trying too hard to fit in.

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jl.fms offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Lisboa, 14, PT | 5 months ago (15 hours, 20 minutes after post)

You’re both..probably right, to some point. I do have a lack of self esteem and confidence. Pride on the other hand…I don’t know. I don’t like to be belittled or insulted by people, especially if i don’t know the person or if i feel there’s an agressive motive behind that person. Couldn’t that be pride?
Like rejection, wether it’s from some girl i had a crush for or something i really thought to be important to point out, or something i think is awesome but someone thinks the exact oposite…, i uh, don’t take it very well.
I mean, i don’t know. I’m confused. Could be me not wanting to be considered inferior. I really don’t know.
It’s maybe time i start looking for a psychiatrist…

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Lisboa, 14, PT | 5 months ago (15 hours, 22 minutes after post)

I am trying too hard to fit in…i wish it just came off natural.

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