Feel help: how do I deal with someone who feels sorry for themselves on - Help.com

You can’t control how everyone else reacts to this person but I personally would just ignore the behavior or say simple positive remarks like “things will get better” don’t play into what she does…. sounds like to me she is wanting the attention that it brings.

This is hard.It can be draining to others,bringing them down.I hope this hasn’t happened to you.If not,it will after time so you have to do something now.It can mean choosing to not be around them so much ,or telling them how you feel or sever ties completely.

You are in a pickle arent you?You have had talks with her which has given her warning,.Maybe it’s time you be more firm.When she says something negative you could refuse to listen, telling her you ‘dont want to hear it.Or maybe ask for a different position,you or her so you wont have to see her as much or none.

“Self-pity is an emotion which is self-destructive. It may be the result of grief or clinical depression, and will have to be viewed differently then, but usually it stems from a weak self-confidence and needs to be overcome in the process of becoming a mature adult.”

I always viewed self-pity as a form of manipulation to get others to feel guilt but it’s not always like that.