Love help: I was going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half.

maaria8

I was going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half.

it was a very rocky relationship and we stopped talking for about 2months in the middle because he cheated on me. i forgave him and got back with him because he really had changed during that time apart. im only 18 so im not thinking about marriage right now but my family would never accept him because he would not convert to the same religion as me. my parents dont know about him and i cant ever tell them because im not supposed to have a boyfriend. he broke up with me because i wouldnt tell my dad about him even though he already knew what would happen in the end right from the start. he was fine with me and we wer friends for a while but all of a sudden hes changed and says he doesnt want me part of his life and that iv not to talk to him ever again! Hes a very violent person and im scared he may do something if he gets angry one day. but still i dont know what to do because even though i know i cant be with him for the rest of my life id still like him to be part of it, as a friend. but he wont have any of it, he says hes going to cut me out for good. iv told him ill wait however long it takes for him to talk to me but he says it’l be forever. i dont know what to do, hes always going to mean alot to me and il always love him. i need help

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delgirl4 1 #
Adelaide, 05, AU | 5 months ago (3 minutes after post)

maybe hes no good for you, i would not accept violence thats horrible.

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maaria8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Yeah i know hes not good, i know that breaking up with him was the right thing to do. hes affected so much of my life, my relationship with my family and friends and also my studies.
I dont want to get back with him all im asking is that he at least acknowledges me, he said he wont. i dont know what to do, im giving him time right now but i dont know how long i should give him before trying to talk to him again

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delgirl4 1 #
Adelaide, 05, AU | 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

yea i sort of know what ur goin through, 2 weeks ago my bf broke up with me coz sum girl hooked up wid him, but even though i knew it wasnt his fault i forgave him but he sed he didnt want a relationship anymore. i dont really talk to my ex any more but i just think im better off without him and that makes me happy.

im not sure how u wuld get ur ex to talk to u again, i guess u mite just have to move on or wait and see.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Maaria8–I really understand what you are going through. I do. I have been exactly where you are. But you have to let him go.
If you do not, he will destroy you from the heart out. You are young and will find someone who will be good TO you and FOR you. ANd even though it may not seem like it right now, you will find a place in your heart for this guy.A special place. But it would be best to just take a breath, give yourself some time, and move on. I wish you so much luck and love, maaria8. Oh, and if you continue to fall back and talk to him, it will just re-open the wounds that you have already suffered. Please, be good to yourself.

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rstarzboxer 4 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Well, simply put…I would go oyur seperate ways. I know you hurt and you want him to acknowledge that you were once important to him but that just isn’t going to happen. He is moving on and wants no part of you. You have to respect his wishes and you also have to repect yourself enough to. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you this way? It makes no sense. Be strong and move on- don’t waste one more single breath on him. Truthfully, he is enjoying you weeping all over him, he may even be laughing about it. Don’t give hime the pleasure and move onto better things.

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maaria8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Thanks so much all of you, i know the right thing to do is forget about him. its just hard, i know ill find someone who is good to me someday. i guess i just need some reassurance that im doing the right thing. Thanks so much x

cattail 8 #
Newark, NJ, US | 5 months ago (4 hours, 13 minutes after post)

It sounds like he’s doing you a favor…. you do not need someone who’s violent in your life… even as a friend. There are also too many problems with your family if you are with him. It sounds like a very difficult situation, and it sounds like the best thing is to let him go… It will take time to get over the loss, but you will move on. Just stop contacting him and start trying to move on to a different life now.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

I want to know in side my boyfriend he like or loves me realy or not ? how can I will know well

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

I want to know in side myboy friend heart he like or love me how I will know he well?

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cattail 8 #
Newark, NJ, US | 5 months ago (2 days, 5 hours after post)

I think it’s most likely that he did like or even love you at one time, in his own way, but it’s over now and he’s determined not to return to that feeling again. You should just work on letting him go now… there were just too many problems for it to really work out… he knows it and you know it. Perhaps it would just be too painful for him to just be your friend… and too dangerous for you, as well, since he is violent. Perhaps he knows this is for the best, and you have to realize that too.

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