Love help: I’m in love with someone i really shouldnt be. - Help.com

Well you are 17 and maybe your parents think you are too young to mingle with this guy. Is this online relationship? how old is he?

My parents wouldnt want me to be with this guy no matter how old we are. Im asian and should marry an asian guy, is all that matters to them. We’re both 17. I know its a bit young to be thinking about marriage but i love this guy so much. I cant imagine a life without him. We know each other from school.

its not too young to think about marriage, i have a friend who is 15 and engaged! why wouldnt your parents approve?

Like i said in my last post, im asian and my parents want me to marry another asian. Its cultuarally unacceptable to date/marry someone who isnt asian. I do have distant family members who have done it, 2 aunts and a male cousin but my parents have always said that they would disown me if i do. I want to be with him for the rest of my life but i have no idea how to tell my parents, tho i probably wont for a while yet. I just want to be with him and away from their controlling nature. What do i do?

maybe if you would reach legal age they would not be as strict.

well when you reach legal age, there is nothing you they can really do about it! is there or is it different where you’re from! where are you from?

Well when i turn 18 i can do what i want. in theory i can move out now if i really wanted. Thing is, both me and my bf are in full time education and we want to go to uni etc. I know this sound wrong of me but practically its better for me to stay here till im qualified and have a good job etc. My family are well off enough that i dont need to worry about finances for uni whereas my bf comes from a single parent family where money is tighter. if i were to leave my family id have problems supporting myself etc. Is it wrong of my to stay with my family till after i have got my qualifications and am in a good job?

no, im stayin at home till i get enough omney to get out lol! people do it all the time!

17, you’re still a minor. parents obligation to protect you. follow them. you will never go wrong. so young, so silly. it’s just a phase, when you grows older you will find the man of your dreams (better than this one) enjoy your youth while still young and fresh! lol :p

this isnt a phase. he is the guy for me. there are so many things right between us. it would have been easier for me to not enter a relationship with him but i have and it has been worth is. he is the reason im happy again. for years ive been the good little girl that my parents want me to be but ive never been happy. he loves me for me and not the idea of me - thats what my parents do. he is the reason im enjoying my youth. i dont particularly want to go against my parents wishes. before i met my bf i was happy marrying the ideal asian guy but i cant now that ive met my bf. i would love to follow my parents wishes but how can i if it isnt what i want. it would only make me miserable again like i was b4.

if he truly, really loves you, he will wait for the right time. but not now when you’re just 17. study first, get a job, be independent then you can do anything you want to do. make it right, when you still can. there are so many mistakes in the world, we will not live long to commit all of them, so learn from others :p

just an advice though, you still have your own wits, and decisions to make :p

thanks. im planning on studying first and when i have a job and can support myself i’ll move away from my parents. and he has told me he will wait for me. he doesnt want to me to do anything stupid and reminds me that we will be together someday when the time is right.
i just hate how even tho my parents know nothing of this relationship, they still dictate what i can and cannot do.

I know it is overwhelming to at last find someone to back up or support you when you are having problems with your parents. Most teenagers go through this phase. I did too.

Wait for the time when you are ready to face the world of adulthood when you can weigh things better than the age you are now.

Young people call it dictating. But parents would think that it is their job to do. To protect their children. Most young ones do not understand that especially when they find someone to love.

Hang in there, it would not take too much time until you are done with school. Show your parents that you are mature in handling this. Actually getting back to them would only harden them some more. They would think it is a sign of disrespect.

Love will remain. If it is true. After many years.

:)

thank you ~lilies~

You are welcome, i wish you patience and love. :)

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