To some, those are real problems. Don’t down size people.
You want to help me get a job? Cause I’m a felon and no one hires me ?
It changes alot here, but the main problems are love and suicide…
And there is a broad age range here, there just seems to be alot more teens than any other age really, but I know nearly everyone here and they are very friendly and mature for their ages so I don’t really think it matters how old someone is as a problem is still a problem no matter how simple we think it may be to fix it is not so simple to the person living it.
Maybe that is a bit harsh but it just seems like there are so many of these cases on here. When looking at these kids should be worrying about school and benefiting their future. I understand though, I was there not that long ago and I remeber it was miserable to lose the “Love of your life” but now looking back, I realize what a waste it was. If they could only understand that it really is no big deal and it won’t matter in the future. Their education will though. That’s all.
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I’m not sure I agree 100% with your rstarz’. I do understand what your saying however. In the scheme of things love is “wasted on the youth” as they say. Their education is critically important. I volunteer with Juvenile Probation, and I see EVERY DAY how important it is to have a good education. BUT… there is a quickening that happens with first and young love that unfortunately diminishes as we get older. When we are young love encompasses body, mind (although very little reason) and spirit. Young love and school? Ha… school books become doodle pads to practice how you will spell out your married name and to perfect hearts with arrows through them. Not much of anything else exists other than the object of affection with young love. So it goes without saying that when there is a problem with young love there is a problem with life as a whole - even though we all know deep down that is not the case.
Consider - We will forget your kindergarten teacher. We will forget the priest that gave us first communion. We will forget our first birthday party… but you and I will probably never forget our first love, maybe even our first kiss.
Children… we know you love one another. Keep loving it’s wonderful. But listen… try to listen to some of us older folks because we do care, and we have experienced it all before - and survived! Then on the flip side we older folks can learn (remember) from you, what it is to have that quickening in love that you can have :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard
yes but love, social contact is important in our lives because we need love and attention. It is one of our basic human needs. Education is important but so is being round people who accept us for who we are. Many young people don’t realise this and end up hanging out with the wrong sort. Generally as we get older our confidence grows and get better at choosing suitable persons to be around.
“So it goes without saying that when there is a problem with young love there is a problem with life as a whole - even though we all know deep down that is not the case.” I agree with this, when I was doing a childcare course last year I was taught the social and emotional part of a childs life is the vital ruote to succeed in other areas of their life also, this is including all aspects of their education.
I’m 23 and I have never posted about love problems in fact most of my post have been about depression or suicidal ideations. The times I don’t post about that I am usually asking hypothetical questions or I am getting help making a decision.
case to case basis. no one’s too old for love :p
Yes, and maybe our first loves aren’t “noting”. We learn from all of our experiences and grow from them, they make us who we are but to know that these kids feel like it is the end of the earth- you just want to try to make them understand that this really is just part of growing up, the pain goes away, and things mature and change. It’s not as bad as it seems to them now, but there is no way to comfort the pain for them. If they could only see what us old folks look back and see now.
But yes, it was a horrible time to go through and one of the best times as well of my younger days….. to feel that little flutter again…
My typing is horrible today…. “nothing”*
yeah i agree! its just a phase really. they should simply move on with their lives. the best is yet to come. but then again, so many youngsters maybe in here. teens i guess. and they love as if its the end of the world. lol
Renegade_007 wrote:
That’s one of the major problems in today’s world. The parents are so busy both working they don’t have time or take the time for whatever reason to talk with there sons and daughters., and the sons and daughters have no one else to turn to.
So all we can do is do what we can and try to show them some one does care even though we want to help others with real problems. I wish I had more time than I do and probably spend more time than I should on here. I do need to go to church now. Anyway I’ll be around later.
I agree with you here. Many parents aren’t involved as much. I stay at home with my kids thankfully but growing up I had no one. I was raped by my step-father when I was 12 and left home at 13 later to be imancipated. Anyhow, teen love is just part of normal childhood development and there is something to be said for that. However, I see alot of these kids on here seeking out “Love” where there is no love because they have a lack of it at home, then when their love isn’t returned it’s the end of the earth for them. When really it’s just the begining.
It’s hard to get my point accross but sometimes when being understanding with these kids isn’t working for them, showing them a bit of tough love is the answer. They need to focus on themselves and make a better future for themselves so THEY are happy in life. “Love” enhances our lives for the better, it doesn’t make our lives better.
Well, I wish you could read that reply, not sure why it was blocked but it was too long to type again.
Ok our first loves aren’t all that and all these young people who think they are in love, yes you have to laugh.
But remember being there yourself, it doesn’t seem like “nothing” at the time.
You think to yourself, how grown up you are and how your lucky to have found someone so young.
For whatever reason, ita more traumatic breaking up with someone you “love” at such a young age nowadays.
And there is too much of a big increase in teenage suicides that are mostly due to love problems to just ignore them. To be honest i think its funny and cute when i read some of them…but
You have to remember these people are young, they don’t know what we know. So sometimes they just need people on here to tell that where its at. You gotta learn somehow
It does not matter what your problem is, the problem is yours and you have to live with it. Sometimes that makes it the most important thing in your life, no matter how much other people may trivialise it.
If I read a post that I cannot relate to or understand, I leave it. Someone else will pick it up.
rstarzboxer wrote:
Renegade_007 wrote:
That’s one of the major problems in today’s world. The parents are so busy both working they don’t have time or take the time for whatever reason to talk with there sons and daughters., and the sons and daughters have no one else to turn to.
So all we can do is do what we can and try to show them some one does care even though we want to help others with real problems. I wish I had more time than I do and probably spend more time than I should on here. I do need to go to church now. Anyway I’ll be around later.
I agree with you here. Many parents aren’t involved as much. I stay at home with my kids thankfully but growing up I had no one. I was raped by my step-father when I was 12 and left home at 13 later to be imancipated. Anyhow, teen love is just part of normal childhood development and there is something to be said for that. However, I see alot of these kids on here seeking out “Love” where there is no love because they have a lack of it at home, then when their love isn’t returned it’s the end of the earth for them. When really it’s just the begining.
It’s hard to get my point accross but sometimes when being understanding with these kids isn’t working for them, showing them a bit of tough love is the answer. They need to focus on themselves and make a better future for themselves so THEY are happy in life. “Love” enhances our lives for the better, it doesn’t make our lives better.
i understand where you’re coming from and i totally agree with you. it will not be healthy for a person especially at a young age to continually beg for love. must find it within him/herself and with God. lesser regrets and lesser disappointments will result.
far from making it trivial. making it lighter and easier to understand instead. love must come from within and with God. begging for love will only lead you to regrets and disappointments! personal experience and opinion based
Yeah exactly bonnie.
I could laugh at some problems, and some problems they don’t seem bad AT ALL…yet…the person is obviously upset by them and must want help to be posting here.
I really do understand these kids, I really do understand the heartache they feel.
But for ME personally, now having had been there, I only wish I would have put all that energy into something more important, such as my education and heck- myself. I have love in my life, but like I said before I still live the same life that I built- the love has only enhanced it.
I get it all though and I know they are too young to understand, I only wish someone would have tried talking to me when I was younger.
dcb_707 wrote:
far from making it trivial. making it lighter and easier to understand instead. love must come from within and with God. begging for love will only lead you to regrets and disappointments! personal experience and opinion based
Good answer…but not necessarily God. God didn’t spur on my love. That came from MY heart.
rstarzboxer wrote:
Well, I wish you could read that reply, not sure why it was blocked but it was too long to type again.
i know where you’re coming from, i totally agree with you.
rstarzboxer wrote:
I really do understand these kids, I really do understand the heartache they feel. But for ME personally, now having had been there, I only wish I would have put all that energy into something more important, such as my education and heck- myself. I have love in my life, but like I said before I still live the same life that I built- the love has only enhanced it.I get it all though and I know they are too young to understand, I only wish someone would have tried talking to me when I was younger.
Amen!
I wish that too…i’d love to have not been in love with this 1 guy. IT was an abusive relationship. Helped cause all my depression and problems that i’ve had to deal with. If only i didn’t have him! lol. But at the end of the day i wouldn’t be where i am now if i hadn’t.
♥Rαvεr♥ wrote:
dcb_707 wrote:
far from making it trivial. making it lighter and easier to understand instead. love must come from within and with God. begging for love will only lead you to regrets and disappointments! personal experience and opinion based
Good answer…but not necessarily God. God didn’t spur on my love. That came from MY heart.
i still prefer to have a love relship with God. better than any other relships!
dcb_707 wrote:
♥Rαvεr♥ wrote:
dcb_707 wrote:
far from making it trivial. making it lighter and easier to understand instead. love must come from within and with God. begging for love will only lead you to regrets and disappointments! personal experience and opinion based
Good answer…but not necessarily God. God didn’t spur on my love. That came from MY heart.
i still prefer to have a love relship with God. better than any other relships!
Well as long as your happy with it then thats the main thing! :)
learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all :p
love thy God, love thy neighbors as you love thyself.
its ok to fall in love but with caution! lol
♥Rαvεr♥ wrote:
rstarzboxer wrote:
I really do understand these kids, I really do understand the heartache they feel. But for ME personally, now having had been there, I only wish I would have put all that energy into something more important, such as my education and heck- myself. I have love in my life, but like I said before I still live the same life that I built- the love has only enhanced it.I get it all though and I know they are too young to understand, I only wish someone would have tried talking to me when I was younger.
Amen!I wish that too…i’d love to have not been in love with this 1 guy. IT was an abusive relationship. Helped cause all my depression and problems that i’ve had to deal with. If only i didn’t have him! lol. But at the end of the day i wouldn’t be where i am now if i hadn’t.
We learn from our mistakes and it helps define who we are. I guess it’s all part of the process. Maybe I have learned from my mistakes that love isn’t everything. I just want these kids to realize that no one in life is going to make them purely happy until- they themselves are happy with THEMSELVES and who they become as a person and what meaning/purpose they give to their own lives.
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rstarzboxer wrote:
We learn from our mistakes and it helps define who we are. I guess it’s all part of the process. Maybe I have learned from my mistakes that love isn’t everything. I just want these kids to realize that no one in life is going to make them purely happy until- they themselves are happy with THEMSELVES and who they become as a person and what meaning/purpose they give to their own lives.
I agree with you. But i think its something that has to happen by itself to be honest. To be honest people did try to tell me about it all when i was young but right then i thought i knew better lol .
Renegade, thankyou. Lots of love your way too :)
im am negative 20 years old
so i guess i’ll be born twenty years from now?
I’m 14. :)
Going on 15 mind you! About to graduate unto Freshman year! :DD
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