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DefinatelyNotPerfect
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I wanna break up with my boyfriend of less than a week.

There’s nothing wrong with him, I just don’t see it between us… he’s a great guy, but I don’t feel anything like that for him…
Am I a bad person for thinking ‘give it a go’ but knowing it probably wasn’t the right choice, just saying yes for trying it out? I feel so bad, I don’t want to hurt him. I don’t like the sensation of being to one person either, I don’t know.

I’m stupid, I know that…

I also have this strong feeling for someone else, but, you see, we’re on sabbatical, so even if I want be with that person, I can’t really, they’re in the place we left for this while.

Don’t know… I’m a bad person, definately…

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 832 #
Poway, CA, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Well, if you don’t think it will work out, the best thing you can do know is to break it off, to not love him, but keep it going, will just make it worse when you break up.

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jms197 offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

I agree with Commander Irari you should just let him know before your emotion or HIS get on involved. just tell him what you just told us.

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DefinatelyNotPerfect offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
GB | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

What do you mean about his or my emotion? I mean, if he asked me out doesn’t that mean he’s already got emotion? I’m sorry if I sound round, and that I’m phrasing this in a weird way, I really do apologize.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 832 #
Poway, CA, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

I think he means to end it before he gets even more involved with you, it’ll hurt him now, but any later will hurt him much worse.

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DefinatelyNotPerfect offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
GB | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Ohh… okay :( nervous

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 832 #
Poway, CA, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

You just have to do it. It will be the best for both of you.

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jms197 offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Dont be nervous.. I am Marraige and Family Guidance Couns. I deal with this with teens and adults.. just dont do it via email or phone. call him over to your house or to a friends house. and just tell him how you feel

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DefinatelyNotPerfect offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
GB | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I’d never do that to anyone, yeah, I’ll talk to him

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Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Please break it off as soon as possible. My girlfriend spent way too long feeling guilty over not having feelings for me anymore. By the time she told me and we consequently ended it, I was so emotionally attached that it really messed me up inside and gave me many nights of sleepless pain. In fact, it still hurts, and it’s been more than six months.

If you don’t have feelings for him, then a clean break as quickly as you can is the best thing for both of you. Trust me.

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jms197 offline Verified User (2 months, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

annonymous i think she gets the point now.

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Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Your post is unnecessary. Please stop ranting on those who tries to help other people. If she doesn’t require my point of view, she is free to ignore it. But it’s there if she needs it, which is what Help.com is all about.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 832 #
Poway, CA, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Your post is unnecessary. Please stop ranting on those who tries to help other people. If she doesn’t require my point of view, she is free to ignore it. But it’s there if she needs it, which is what Help.com is all about.

who are you talking to?

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Anonymous #
2 months, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

jms197

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