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I want to be a dancer so bad!

! I always feel so depressed about my body…I hate being me. I look at other people and wish I had their body, I know living in the ballet world, body image strikes me a little harder than some. I feel like crap all the time. I can’t figure out how to exercise all the time without my parents thinking I’m going anorexic. They wouldn’t understand if I told them I am struggling with my body. plus I can’t figure out what to do with food. My mom was anorexic when she was younger, so she is really paranoid about me going anorexic too. I don’t want to, plus I don’t think I could go very long without eating. And I know about all the bad effects of anorexia, but sometimes I feel like it is my only hope.
I just want to feel happy about myself again. I used to love dancing so much, I still do, I love the feeling I get when I perform, but in rehearsels I always feel like crap. I miss not ever caring about body image, back when I was younger and more naiive, than I am now, and didn’t realize their was a certain body type for ballerinas.
Not only am I depressed about my body, but clinical depression runs in my family. I already have to take meds, but it isn’t working.
I am 5feet 3-4 inches, and weigh around 110-113lbs(it changes a lot), this seems healthy, I know I have an average BMI, but I have heard some people say dancers should weigh ten pounds lighter than the lowest recommended weight for their age group.

please help, I don’t know how, cuz there doesn’t seem to be anything anyone can do, but if anyone has any pointers or anything that would be great.

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Amberlicious595 offline Verified User (1 month, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
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I’m no expert but from what I understand… If you don’t eat you don’t have energy to MOVE (i.e. dance) OR burn fat. Your body goes into emergency survival mode. I learned it actually requires calories to burn fat cells. It doesn’t just happen automatically. Plus if you stop eating your body will eat your muscles first instead of your fat (it will save that)! So make sure you eat good food so you body can function properly! If you do a little research (I’ll bet your mom at least knows where to look) you’ll learn the best way to loose the most weight but while staying healthy. I think that’s the only way you will feel happy is when you are working for your health and not your appearance.

Have you ever tried visiting a personal trainer? A dietitian? They can help you reach your goals.

I love ballet 3 I hope you don’t let anything ruin your passion for it. :-)

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