friends help: Arn’t friends suppose to be there for you..and if you give - Help.com



This post left anonymously

Arn’t friends suppose to be there for you..and if you

give them so many chances should you keep forgiving or let go to your best friend of over 15 years?..Im stuck my mind is finally lost and i dont know how to find it again,trust is the only thing i have and it has been taken from me since i have been young, from people i loved and thought i could trust. And now i dont think i can trust my best friend.. I just dont know what to do anymore…any help?

This open post was written 1 month, 4 weeks ago | V/U/S: 130, 9, 6 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0) Reciprocation Failure -- The poster has NOT helped anyone else yet!

Since writing this post Anonymous may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days.

Post Tags (10)

friends, Mind, forgiving, Year, Find, young, Thought, Stuck, Has Been, trust (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (9)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen
Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

This reply has been removed.
foreverfreckled offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 112 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

that happened 2 me 2…just be wary of what they say, but still be close. u dont wanna let go of a good friend. when they mature a bit more, they will be able to keep ones trust. dont ever let a good friend go. if they r ur bff, keep them. just dont judge on trust. true, trust is very very important. they will earn it back, and when they do, u should be there 4 them. trust is good, but friendship is better. (in my opinion of course…)

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: My brother’s updates and such:
ba-tampt offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I am in a similar situation, I think that for the time being you should stick things out with your good friend but if she or he is disappointing you, don’t let yourself get too attached and be on the look out for some new people. Go out somewhere and make some new friends and new connections, give yourself a bit of a fresh start so you don’t have only one close friend to fall back on. And if things end badly with this friend at least then you’ll have some new ones to help you through it. Sorry if this doesn’t help much.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
foreverfreckled offline Verified User (2 months) Shouts: 112 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

ba-tampt is right! u sould always have a back-up plan, even if u have more friends. just dont let any friends go until u know 4 certain. what is ur friends character like??? it is ok if u dont wanna tell me

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: My brother’s updates and such:
karaoke7_9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Shes outgoing she has a good heart, but her bad qualities take over her more..

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
Nutmeg offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 22 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

I'’m in a situation just like yours… I guess the best thing is to keep trying to forgive them, and hope you can get somewhere with trust.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Help me study!
karaoke7_9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

See its hard for me, i do not forgive very easily, loyalty is the thing that keeps me going, if there is no trust theres no good. We have talked about this and she hasn’t done one thing to make me think she cares…what best frined blows off another…over and over again

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
This account has been deactivated.
Amberlicious595 offline Verified User (1 month, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

“Friends” are supposed to make you feel happy and if you can’t trust them that doesn’t sound like a friend to me. I think you already know what you want to do.

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Felicity-{KIMKRISS} offline Verified User (6 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 296 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 34 minutes after post)

We can’t go through life without being ‘Taken’,cuz when we try we stop living as we should.Im wondering about balance.If you are an easy target to be taken advantage of,if you are naive or trust too much.And is the main problem with her or is it a pattern for you.Either way,trust is important and vital for relationships to work and should not be compromized.Does she do this to other people too?

Quote this reply Report this reply to moderators
Help me with: Body Image ; You are beautiful.

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.