I asked this question to someone (the infamous Richard Cor de Lyon!) on help.com before.. and this is what he told me to do…
“If you have a hard time loving yourself this reflects low self esteem. The first thing you need to do is inventory your qualities. ALL of them good and bad. Take a piece a paper and draw a line down the middle….on one side write all the bad things and on the other write all the good thing. DO NOT be discouraged if you your bad list is WAY bigger than your good list - it actually is for many many people. The good side is easy. These are the things that should instantly make you feel good about yourself, and increase your self esteem. The great news is that you have within you every human feeling and quality. Some you don’t know about yet, and some you deny and hide away. Another thing you want to know is that in the Universe we live in, everything is relative. What I mean by that is that for every thing there is an opposite thing… hot - cold, light - dark, etc. etc. Now, take a look at your bad list. Every feeling or quality that you judged yourself as being bad, you have within your subconscious the opposite GOOD quality or feeling. All you have to do is get in touch with it. How do you do that? Do you look up to anyone? Do you see people sometimes and say to yourself you wish you could be like them? The reason you feel that way is because the good you see in them is also hidden inside you. You feel the good inside you (that is how you can see it in others), but you are afraid to show it. When you come to terms with the good inside you, it becomes more easy to share that with the world. So, lets say you wrote fearful, on you your bad qualities list. This means that you have hidden inside you great courage. You probably would look up to people you see a courageous.
One other thing you can do right away to start loving yourself is to change your self-talk. We all have this internal chatter going on all the time. Many of us are so judgmental of ourselves too. Try to catch yourself thinking bad things of yourself and just stop thinking them. It is very difficult at first, but keep with it, it gets easier. One way to start this is to every morning spend 15 minutes in front of the mirror. As you look closely and deeply at your reflection say aloud, “I love you” Say this to yourself out loud and really mean it. Repeat it over and over. You need to do this for 15 minutes every day for 21 days. You HAVE to do it every day for 21 days because that is how long it takes your brain to make new neural pathways. These are the paths of our habits. So if you can do it every day for 21 days, you will be creating a habit of positive self-talk. You will be creating the habit of loving yourself.
Thomas Edison never say failure in his eyes. He was the most prolific inventor of his day because he didn’t have failures, he learned how NOT to do something. Remember, YOU apply the meaning to your life. YOU call something good or bad. YOU make all the choices - make them carefully.
~*~ Bright Blessings ~*~ Richard
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