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I will pray for you.

Me too.

Can the two of you go to counseling or something? Could you talk to a pastor at your church? Is your wife saying she is going to change her ways?

Have you maybe considered couple’s therapy?
There are also a lot of things specifically for couples to help put the “spark” back in a relationship. Maybe that will help.
Also, talk to her about it. Calmly, and rationally, explain to her how you feel and what you want to do.

I feel for you. I hope it all works out.

It is going to be tough. Do not pretend it is going to be alright when i am sure it is not. Are there kids involved?

I agree with the counseling.

Hello, I know you asked for prayers, but do you feel like talking about it?

I am sure this is devistating for you and I can understand how it must be very hard to find trust…

Just cling to God my friend… forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting and pretending that things are fine, your wife is responsible for her actions and you may find that couples therapy with a Christian therapist may help ( if you aren’t considering that already)

You can’t force your wife to do anything she doesn’t have in her to do, just as she can’t force you to do the same… She has to realize that there is going to be alot of effort on her part to help ease your mind and pain… you are not alone in this, so please do not take all the blame and the weight of this problem on your shoulders.

Dear Lord,

This family needs your help, and already we know you have your watchful eye on this situation. Heal and mend hearts with your comfort and your ever lasting love God.
Help this family not to dwell on the why’s and the actions, but allow them to focus on eachother and help eachother in understanding and in love. You say love covers all wrongs, and empowering the feelings of doubt and pain is a tactic from the enemy. Lord I stand boldly in front of you now, and rebuke the enemy and his lies, and his devious and perverted ways. We come together in agreement and bind the enemy from having any more dealings with this situation concerning this family. God I ask that you show this family thier vulnerabilities and where they need to come together in unity and inspect every area of thier lives Lord so that it will never give the enemy a foot hold again. Allow them, teach them God to communicate in understanding and never judgment. Show them your loving ways, and your truths, even if it hurts personally, teach them and mend them so that they can be the family you set them out to be. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Forgiveness is a pardon, and I know how you may want to relive the insident in your mind… of her being with other people… it just torments you… when you get those thoughts, rebuke them, and ask God to cover them with His love and understanding… do not ask your wife questions that will be hard for you to hear… you don’t need to have comparissons here… you need to accept this and forgive and find a way to move on… in time you will if that is your ultimate goal… but she needs to find help… There has to be a reason why she is doing this….

Are you a Christian family? or is it just one of you or some of you go to church?

If you are going to give her another chance you need to give her a real one. If you hold stuff against her then your relationship won’t be able to survive that.

If you want to end it then that’s up to you. But don’t keep trying if you aren’t willing to forgive and give her another chance.

There must be something else you can do to revive your marriage. You cannot let it go down the drain, i could not tell you to just forget what your wife did because she did a major mistake.

I am the last person to advice divorce. But again, have you had counseling?

Give her one more chance. You have chosen to stay with her, so give it to her.

think inside of you. “DO I love her?” If the answer is yes, Than get over your memory problems and move on.

Although, you are desperately seeking answers to your heart problems..Your
wife does love you much, and will not do it again.

Keep in mind, you know why, she did what she did, and that’s why, you are with
her still. Don’t turn your back on someone, that your chose for
certain types of common circumstances.

She forgave you. Now the two of you are even.
A match made by equal circumstances. “IF” you leave, this one, you’ll regret
it. Be thankful, (your answer) and stay married happily.

Games both played, and prayers heard. lucky!