friends help: Okay, so there is this girl in my class and nobody likes her. - Help.com

well dont hurt her feeling just sort of like gradually dump her (does that make sence) like spend less and less time with her and then when u dont be friends with her at all she wont b like tottaly crushed

yes. and i think you should tell her why. she will wanna know. i think the longer u pretend the more it hurts, just dont be b***** about it.

Do you want to hang out with her or not????

well people don’t hang out with her because so is rude sometimes and acts like she knows everything, but at the same time, she’s not one of the popular one’s. i don’t want to hang out with her. and she also lies alot. and she sticks to you like glue.

look if you don’t want to hurt her feelings, convince her that there are other people that she needs to know. it may not look like it at first but it might be true. there is a time when you just have to tell someone the truth even if its hurtful. i know it can be hard at first but give it some time and maybe she’ll forgive you for what you have did in the past.

Ok then theres your reason not to hang out with her

ok thanks everyone

your welcome

just don’t hurt her feelings

yea… i think lovetehmusi is right. just gradually dump her without hurting her feelings.

good idea

Ok, so you’re the only ones in the school who are nice to her and you think you can (in the words of an above responder) “just gradually dump her without hurting her feelings”?

Let me clue you in: You can’t. I can guarantee that when the only people in the school who are nice to her “gradually dump” her, her feelings WILL be hurt.

Why don’t you try REALLY being nice to her–that is, letting her hang out with you a little bit and then NOT talking about her behind her back? If there is something overtly wrong with something she is doing, then gently take her aside and tell her, one-on-one. Give her some friendly advice, but don’t throw her to the wolves.

What does it cost you, anyway, to be nice to someone who’s slightly different? Can’t you put yourself in her shoes and think about what it must feel like to be the designated reject of the school?

You know what it sounds like to me? It sounds like all your friends are kind enough to WANT to be nice to her, but too insecure about it NOT to make fun of her when she turns her back. No one has the guts to just be nice and mean it.

I think YOU should step forward and be the brave one. The next time they start ragging on her, say something like, “Oh, give her a break. She’s a little awkward, but she’s not evil. Let’s be nice to her.” Demonstrate some CHARACTER, girl.

Have some charity, for heaven’s sake. Be kind to other people who are not as fortunate as you are. You don’t have to choose her as you maid of honor or hitch-hike across Europe with her after graduation. Just give her some people to talk to and someone to eat lunch with. Maybe when people stop treating her like an outcast she’ll get relaxed enough to be LESS awkward and strange.

theresape wrote:
Ok, so you’re the only ones in the school who are nice to her and you think you can (in the words of an above responder) “just gradually dump her without hurting her feelings”?

Let me clue you in: You can’t. I can guarantee that when the only people in the school who are nice to her “gradually dump” her, her feelings WILL be hurt.

Why don’t you try REALLY being nice to her–that is, letting her hang out with you a little bit and then NOT talking about her behind her back? If there is something overtly wrong with something she is doing, then gently take her aside and tell her, one-on-one. Give her some friendly advice, but don’t throw her to the wolves.

What does it cost you, anyway, to be nice to someone who’s slightly different? Can’t you put yourself in her shoes and think about what it must feel like to be the designated reject of the school?

You know what it sounds like to me? It sounds like all your friends are kind enough to WANT to be nice to her, but too insecure about it NOT to make fun of her when she turns her back. No one has the guts to just be nice and mean it.

I think YOU should step forward and be the brave one. The next time they start ragging on her, say something like, “Oh, give her a break. She’s a little awkward, but she’s not evil. Let’s be nice to her.” Demonstrate some CHARACTER, girl.

Have some charity, for heaven’s sake. Be kind to other people who are not as fortunate as you are. You don’t have to choose her as you maid of honor or hitch-hike across Europe with her after graduation. Just give her some people to talk to and someone to eat lunch with. Maybe when people stop treating her like an outcast she’ll get relaxed enough to be LESS awkward and strange.

thats deep. but thanks

Great answer Theresape! And you, Jess, would really grow by doing this. Including giving her some gentle, specific feedback now and then. Hope you do it! :) She might even turn out to be a good friend back.

You guys are great! thank you so much!

do you consider her a real friend? if you do then you shouldnt dump her for people who dont really know her. its great that you included her. maybe you should stick up for her. then maybe the other kids would get to know her better.

ZuBaT_04 wrote:
do you consider her a real friend? if you do then you shouldnt dump her for people who dont really know her. its great that you included her. maybe you should stick up for her. then maybe the other kids would get to know her better.

Great one!!!!!!!!!!

i use to be “popular”, then one day my “friends” were teasing the girl no one likes(every school has one) and i told them to back off (in so many words) then they dumped me (tragic, lol) and me n that girl have been friends ever since. 11 years now.

great job

I’m one of the most disliked girls in my school and I only have some friends but I just am depressed.

jeaniecarpentie wrote:
i use to be “popular”, then one day my “friends” were teasing the girl no one likes(every school has one) and i told them to back off (in so many words) then they dumped me (tragic, lol) and me n that girl have been friends ever since. 11 years now.

Good story!!!

At the risk of sounding melodramatic, you have a chance to save a life here, Jess. And you will definitely improve your own. You sound like a compassionate person–otherwise you wouldn’t be here asking these questions! Good luck to you, hon.

well lets start off why do u guys dont want to be her friends is it the way she dress or look

or is cause be dont like because it is obvious you dont like her because some one else dont like her i understand if she did negativty to you guys then it is understandable