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Broken hearted in the “FRIEND ZONE”

OK. I was in the friend zone for months with the single dad of my child’s friend. We went out as friends with and without the kids. One month ago, he kissed me–and admitted he had been wanting to for a while!
He said it was natural and just a matter of time before this would happen, since we were together all the time. I admitted to having a ‘crush’ on him, as well. BUT, for the next week, he pretended it never happened. I finally asked what he thought about what did happen, and he gave me the old, ‘don’t want to ruin our frienship’…bla bla bla…take it slow…lame line. What in the world could have happened here? And what should I do now? We had everything in common and could talk for hours; now I think he has ruined our friendship anyway. A week or so later, I asked him, “Were u drunk or what?!…You acted like I was going to show up the next day with my toothbrush and daughter in tow.”…
This was the first attempt at anything for both of us since bad divorces…
I guess i should have stayed in hibernation a while longer! I think they changed the rules on me.

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jgsnlmbtche #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

It happens. Maybe he really is scared. Maybe he was feeling lonely. Are you guys still friends?

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crazyG 171 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (9 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Couldn’t you talk to him about your feelings? Tell him that your friendship has been ruined.
But if you care about him, you might find a way to tell him that, ignore him for a while and things could get better or worse. I mean he’ll either start wondering why are you acting like that and would try to repair his mistake. Or he doesn’t care that much and he’ll get away.
I wish you goodluck whatever you do :)
Hugs!

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camgirl 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (20 hours, 56 minutes after post)

We are still kinda friends, but it’s not the same. We haven’t done anything alone together since that night. And it’s definitely not the same talking to him now.
He said he still wanted to do things together, but so far……..
I have tried the no contact, hard to get, tactic, but I have not been successful in not calling. I feel like a fool, and I don’t even know what put him in reverse! The only thing I can think of is that maybe I was too honest in telling him I returned the crush and it scared him or took away the challenge or something.

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crazyG 171 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

camgirl wrote:
The only thing I can think of is that maybe I was too honest in telling him I returned the crush and it scared him or took away the challenge or something.

yes :) sometimes guys are so weird, and they say that girls act strangely! I’m getting to learn that guys like girls that don’t love them, maybe they would always like to have a kind of chalange, when the girl says she loves them, booom, game over.

I still think that if you forget about him, and ignore him some more, he’ll get back to old him….

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camgirl 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

I know! We like the challenge too; but when we win, we don’t run-we enjoy the fruits! We were building this up since september…it seemed like a courtship or something…very tiny baby steps. So now, I feel like I won a prize and it was taken away from me!
I am really trying to play hard to get, but it’s hard! Like, I was really upset about something at work yesterday, and I called him to feel better.
And there is still contact with activities with the girls. We do pick ups for each other. So I have to change our schedule to totally avoid him.
So is it worth it to try to get him interested again, or just forget it and find someone who is? I don’t want to move in or marry him. it was just so much fun and natural. And it ended before it began. But, this would be what they call ‘transitional relationship’ from divorce for both of us.

crazyG 171 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

I say move on, things come when they come. If you and him are meant to be together then you’ll get together even if you don’t want to. I think that if things came naturally, that’s better. It isn’t nice that you fight too much to get him. Move on and whatever happens later, you’ll get to think about it.
That’s only my opinion :)

But you know better and your heart knows better :)
Goodluck again camgirl!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

Yes, I was thinking the same thing. thing is, at first fate seemed to keep pushing us together…same church, school, gym, daycare…i guess i’ll just let go and seem if fate steps in again. Thanks CrazyG

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