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so I have a dilema.

I used to go out with this guy for about almost 3 years and then we broke up and its been almost 3 years. He came back from Paris after 3 months recently and he was happy to see me. And he put moves on me. And I thought “oh kool, maybe we’ll get back together.” I talked to him about it the other day and I asked him where this relationship is going. I asked him if we’re on the same page. He says he doesnt think we’re on the same page. Be basically told me that he still wants to explore and see if he can date other people. We both havent dated anyone else since we’ve broken up. WHen we broke up, we both agreed we did want to date other people. Now I’m sick of trying to find other people because he’s so right for me and I want no one else. But he still wants to find and date other people. But he also told me, “well, I plan things around you.” what does that mean? If he plans things around me…doesnt that mean something? I’m so confused. Can anyone give me some insight?

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teratot offline Verified User (3 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

It sounds like he wants you to be there for him but doesnt want you with anyone else. Get away from the situation.. You dont deserve to have to put your life on hold for someone who wont do it for you.

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redstr0 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

does it means he still cares?

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redstr0 offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

does anyone have anymore insight on this?

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ambrutellow offline Verified User (4 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 27 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

teratot is exactly right. It seems like you are looking for people to say that you should wait for him because he says he “plan[s] things around you”, which makes you think he cares for you. And he may, but he told you that he wants to see other people. You SHOULD NOT wait around for him.

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