friends help: Choose a person posting on this site… - Help.com

To mas1, even if he thinks there is a click here. He is wrong for the most part and the few replies ive read of his is brilliant.!

Omg there are way to many people to say nice things about, I have no idea how I would even begin to just choose one person. Let me give this some serious thought and I’ll be back.

To mas1s, you always seem to know the right pishing thing to say!

jefkilpatric wrote:
serious thought make it right on both sides dont rackteer with word meanings

jefkilpatric wrote:
YEAH PARABILE SORTA

Your’re not making any sense, but in the spirit of the post..
jefkilpatric says really ‘cool’ interesting things.

to anon, even though i can’t see you i know you can keep your replies real

mills wrote:
to anon, even though i can’t see you i know you can keep your replies real

Anon says thank you. :)

lulz

Just trying to get away from all the horrible posts. There really are too many people (or so it seems) just waiting to pounce and have a go. I think we need to get back to helping people and being ‘nice’, answering questions and enjoying debates. Or is that too simplistic? Anyway, just wanted to pull it back a bit to the good side…

Good idea, then maybe the interesting people wont leave!

mas1s is my hero. She’s just like me, only nice.

amy wrote:
Good idea, then maybe the interesting people wont leave!

with any luck…

I really miss DaNi. Where is DaNi? She’s one of the few people who can cut straught to the heart of the matter without a lot of indulgent bullxxxx. She knows how to call a tree a tree. DaNi, are you here?

Yoga or tai chi helps!!! HA HA HA

mas1s wrote:
Shakey for all the nights we have sat up on his ‘Raising Haggis’ post - I’m making him an Honorary Scot. And Shellfish for taking the Scottish language to the USA.

Yea! Huzzar

Anonymous wrote:
Just trying to get away from all the horrible posts. There really are too many people (or so it seems) just waiting to pounce and have a go. I think we need to get back to helping people and being ‘nice’, answering questions and enjoying debates. Or is that too simplistic? Anyway, just wanted to pull it back a bit to the good side…

Anon, i hope that by being “nice” you don’t mean not holding people to account. I think one of the best things we can do for people here is to try to teach them that many problems are the results of bad decisions, and that by making better decisions they can improve their outcomes. Some people have objected to any suggestion that they can do anything to help themselves; they just want handouts or easy solutions. They see themselves as victims, and they want us to validate their feelings of victimhood. In other words, they want to be coddled, not challenged. I think people who come here often need to be challenged. You might call it pouncing. I call it toughlove.

When I say mas1s is “nice,” I don’t mean she’s mealy-mouthed and indulgent. She’s great at challenging people, but she does so very tactfully, and she seems to miraculously come up with all sorts of resources to help move them in the right direction–but with their own help and participation. So, please, mas1s and others, don’t get TOO “nice.”

“Nice” can be toxic!

Also true

Fizz wrote:
Omg there are way to many people to say nice things about, I have no idea how I would even begin to just choose one person. Let me give this some serious thought and I’ll be back.

Same here!

Don’t need to mention those very popular people that someone else is bound to say something nice about sooner or later anyways so I’ll go with… Pom Pom, yes, you don’t have to read between the lines. What you see is what you get. It’s plainly written black on white. There is just no misinterpreting her and that’s a good thing when it comes to online communication.

Now I’m starting to wonder if this post is going anywhere…
Well, good luck with that! :)

mas1s wrote:
Theresape you’d win hands down for thinking before you speak and not joining in where you dont think you can contribute. Your answers have a safe, calming feeling apart from when you totally lose the plot and attack people lol - oops sorry back to being nice me again - deep breaths.

Now, mas1s! You know I only attack gimme girls and deadbeat tenants! Everyone else is safe …

T.

mas1s wrote:
You are right about not holding people accountable - my view is that we are each responsible for ourselves here - it’s not a popularity contest, well it wasnt until now lol. I dont judge anyone on here by their answers/questions - the only ones that worry me are the ‘ok go and kill yourself’ ones and there really arent that many. Anyway if we were all walking to the same drum - it’d be known as Blah.com not Help.com.

Yeah, but I never meant it as a ‘popularity contest’ as in who is better than who. That would defeat the point. Just to say something nice, no tha’s the wrong word (thanks theresape) but maybe ‘good’ or that impressed you about another poster.

Well I think you are all great. I don’t always agree with what is said, it would be weird if I did, but the heart and thought is there, and the will to help.

You know what I decided that I can’t pick just one, so I’m just going to say that everybody on my friends list rocks, because we chose to be on each others list.

There are other people on here that I think are great people too, so they rock too!

Everybody on this site except for the meanies, are totally awesome people for just wanting to help others.

So here’s to you all members of help.com for all that you do to make the world a better place.

Sorry, if this isn’t what you asked for in this post, but I just couldn’t hurt anyones feelings by leaving them out.

Fizz wrote:
You know what I decided that I can’t pick just one, so I’m just going to say that everybody on my friends list rocks, because we chose to be on each others list.

There are other people on here that I think are great people too, so they rock too!

Everybody on this site except for the meanies, are totally awesome people for just wanting to help others.

So here’s to you all members of help.com for all that you do to make the world a better place.

Sorry, if this isn’t what you asked for in this post, but I just couldn’t hurt anyones feelings by leaving them out.

hey fizz… you have a touch of brown on the end of your nose there… heheheheheh… but i have to say… i agree with you… cheers to all the ones that help those who need it… congrats.

Ben, you are my best best friend here, and you are very nice to me :)

lilies, you are a very beautiful soul

silverwings and felicity, you encourage everyone and you are very wise

LazyDaze, you are so sweet and make me smile a lot :)

^j^lil^_bit_shi^j^, you always post the most funny posts and replies ever

Fizz, thank you for thanking everyone, your replies are sooo Great!

Dan, you are a great person and you didn’t go away

Tricky, you post lots of lovely poems and you have a great smile

2greeneyes, you have 2 beautiful green eyes and you take care of animals

elysium87 and sansceriph and babacup, I don’t know what to say about you, but I always like what you reply, and you are special people on this site

Maximina, you are a great teacher

nextstar, commaderIkari, Soulrising, Roomy22, anoni200 and everyone else whom I don’t know and who I don’t meet too much

At the risk of sounding foolish and conceited…….I would like to pat myself on the back!
I have been a help to some, and an @ss to some, but my motivation is to really help here and elsewhere in life.

I want to pat Errol on the back and say……..thanks for loving people and having genuine concern. (please understand this is therapeutic self talk)

NOW, for all the people already special to me on Help.com, THANK YOU!
You didn’t have to endure my foolishness, my off colored jokes, my sometimes stupid “sense of humour”. But you do………and I THANK YOU!

You will never know how therapeutic it is for me to talk, and even more so to help.

You will never know how many times I have blushed (not too many).

You will never know how many times I have left with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.

You may never know a lot of things about me……but know this!
I thank you, and I care for you as person, not just a computer screen that contains letters, numbers and symbols.

Your personality shines through your words, as well as your love for humanity.

Thank You!

I can say, I Love You! (Hear me out before you get your knickers in a wad)

I. Words for “love” in original Biblical languages
A. Hebrew words
1. Hebrew word ahab - spontaneous, impulsive love (250 times in OT)
2. Hebrew word hesed - deliberate choice of affection and kindness
3. Hebrew word raham - to have compassion, brotherly love

No, I am not asking for you to believe in God…….just using this to help you understand.

I Love You!………you deserve it! Who says that? I say that!

crazyG wrote:

^j^lil^_bit_shi^j^, you always post the most funny posts and replies ever

thank you hun… sometimes i just feel that if we dont laugh… then the depression will seek us and take us down… so i like to try to bring laughter to everyone… many hugs… love shie.

Shakeybritches wrote:
At the risk of sounding foolish and conceited…….I would like to pat myself on the back!
I have been a help to some, and an @ss to some, but my motivation is to really help here and elsewhere in life.

I want to pat Errol on the back and say……..thanks for loving people and having genuine concern. (please understand this is therapeutic self talk)

NOW, for all the people already special to me on Help.com, THANK YOU!
You didn’t have to endure my foolishness, my off colored jokes, my sometimes stupid “sense of humour”. But you do………and I THANK YOU!

You will never know how therapeutic it is for me to talk, and even more so to help.

You will never know how many times I have blushed (not too many).

You will never know how many times I have left with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.

You may never know a lot of things about me……but know this!
I thank you, and I care for you as person, not just a computer screen that contains letters, numbers and symbols.

Your personality shines through your words, as well as your love for humanity.

Thank You!

I can say, I Love You! (Hear me out before you get your knickers in a wad)

I. Words for “love” in original Biblical languages
A. Hebrew words
1. Hebrew word ahab - spontaneous, impulsive love (250 times in OT)
2. Hebrew word hesed - deliberate choice of affection and kindness
3. Hebrew word raham - to have compassion, brotherly love

No, I am not asking for you to believe in God…….just using this to help you understand.

I Love You!………you deserve it! Who says that? I say that!

very beautiful shakey… very beautiful… but i bet that i have made you blush… hehehehehehehehehehe

^j^lil_bit_shi^j^ wrote:

Shakeybritches wrote:
At the risk of sounding foolish and conceited…….I would like to pat myself on the back!
I have been a help to some, and an @ss to some, but my motivation is to really help here and elsewhere in life.

I want to pat Errol on the back and say……..thanks for loving people and having genuine concern. (please understand this is therapeutic self talk)

NOW, for all the people already special to me on Help.com, THANK YOU!
You didn’t have to endure my foolishness, my off colored jokes, my sometimes stupid “sense of humour”. But you do………and I THANK YOU!

You will never know how therapeutic it is for me to talk, and even more so to help.

You will never know how many times I have blushed (not too many).

You will never know how many times I have left with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.

You may never know a lot of things about me……but know this!
I thank you, and I care for you as person, not just a computer screen that contains letters, numbers and symbols.

Your personality shines through your words, as well as your love for humanity.

Thank You!

I can say, I Love You! (Hear me out before you get your knickers in a wad)

I. Words for “love” in original Biblical languages
A. Hebrew words
1. Hebrew word ahab - spontaneous, impulsive love (250 times in OT)
2. Hebrew word hesed - deliberate choice of affection and kindness
3. Hebrew word raham - to have compassion, brotherly love

No, I am not asking for you to believe in God…….just using this to help you understand.

I Love You!………you deserve it! Who says that? I say that!

very beautiful shakey… very beautiful… but i bet that i have made you blush… hehehehehehehehehehe

I’m not saying anything! he he he

hahahahahahahahahahahaha… shakey… no words tell it all… lmfao..

Hmmm…my nice shout out goes to The_Alice for being like a sister, and Roltzefly for being so hilarious.

Thank you so much for the nice words Anon. There are so many on this site that are deserving of Kudos! So, in my fear of leaving anyone out, I wont make a list of thank yous… to list someone that has helped me the most I would have to say Heather (some of you may remember her). Many have helped me, but Heather was the first, and the one that allowed me to be the most open. I miss her.

~Richard

There indeed are some wonderful people here, and they are wise and kind. I love them. I wish I could remember all the people who have wowed me with their compassion, wisdom and patience. Besides mas1s, I can think of fizz, and chev.jame, and florie, nainachick, AmandaLynn, Richard the lion-hearted–but, ****, there are so many more who are not popping into my mind right now. Hey, youse guys, I hope you know who you are–I’ve commended so many of you on your great advice.

There are also some people who come here seeking help sincerely and with an open mind, looking for honest feedback and ready to participate in improving their own lives. I love them, too. In fact, they may be the ones who motivate me to keep coming back.

Third come the trolls and wiseasses who drive everyone crazy. Because I believe they are here because they a) have a genuine need for attention and haven’t figured out ways to find it elsewhere, and b) can benefit from exposure to kind and wise people and from reading the answers given to other troubled people, I love them as well. My arrogant assumption is that they do not have many good adults role models, and if by listening on what is being said here they can fill a gap in their lives.

The fourth group I find on here are the ones who test my patience–those who have never taken responsibility for one single problem in their lives, but have passed the buck on to other people at every turn of the road. They portray themselves as perennial victims, and they get angry if you try to build them up by suggesting that they CAN do things to help themselves. The deny any connection between bad decisions and bad outcomes, and they feel threatened by anyone who tries to suggest that making an effort can yield rewards. I have spent hour upon hour trying to frame creative solutions and brainstorm with people who claim to be in need, only to be called vile and hurtful names because I reached into my think tank instead of my piggy bank. They are the ones radio talk hosts call the “gimme girls”–though of course they are not all girls. I would like to say that I love those people, because that’s what we have been taught as children to do–and I suppose at some level I do, or I wouldn’t spend so much time trying to work with them. But it’s a different kind of love, and it’s mixed with a kind of disgust. Still, I keep trying. Does anyone know why? I don’t.

Fizz wrote:
You know what I decided that I can’t pick just one, so I’m just going to say that everybody on my friends list rocks, because we chose to be on each others list.

There are other people on here that I think are great people too, so they rock too!

Everybody on this site except for the meanies, are totally awesome people for just wanting to help others.

So here’s to you all members of help.com for all that you do to make the world a better place.

Sorry, if this isn’t what you asked for in this post, but I just couldn’t hurt anyones feelings by leaving them out.

But I like it!

Can I just say, that after reading the thread so far, I am really, really glad I started this post. It was lovely to read some of your replies. And Richard, you are welcome. To everyone out there, looking to help, thank you.
Anon (Shellfish)

mas1s wrote:
Pishing good idea it was too

haha lol, you got me. Nice to talk to you mas1s.

Oh man, eveyone on my friends list is there for a reason. Just one ? I can’t, I love them all. :( All I can say is please don’t go, when I get back to the US after this trip, I’ll miss you.

I can’t choose one because I would feel bad about the others if I did. Well I would choose everybody that is on my friend list because all of them been nice to me and actually wanted to add ME as a friend. All of the present long term users because they have stuck around on this site, helped and been helped and haven’t risen to trolls by leaving. Finally, anyone who makes Help a better place.

Hey Shie, I’ll be talking to you later about that brown nose comment, hehe, lol.

Shakey, that was really touching, thank you so much, mostly just for being you.

Shellfish, I’m glad you liked it, it’s the only thing I could do.