This is a long story so only read it if you have time.
I went out with a girl called Kim about four months ago. We were really close except my friends didn’t like her so we kept it secret from everybody until Kims friend Jodie found out about us. Luckily, Jodie’s really nice and she didn’t tell anybody.
Unfortunately, about two months later (one month ago) Kim and I broke up, although Kim, despite being the one that broke up with me, still loved me. about two weeks later (a fortnight ago) I found out that Jodie fancies me.
So I went out with Jodie and immediately fell in love with her. But Kim was really upset though because she thought that Jodie had betrayed her. Kim and Jodie then became archenemies because of me. This made me feel really guilty and I began to really pity Kim.
Unfortunately, Jodie and I broke up after thirteen days (yesterday) and immediately after we broke up, Kim asked me back out. Jodie then hated her.
The next day, I realised that Kim really loves me and would do anything to be with me. So the next day (earlier today) I asked Kim if we could go back out. She said yes! But now Jodie absolutely hates me. It’s so confusing! I love them both so much. I need them and I’ve ruined my relationship with Jodie. How can I “re-befriend” her.
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well u should stop being selfish and leave them both alone so they can rekindle their friendship - and im sorry to say that the most unselfish thing for u to do would not to go out with either of them!
it seems to me that ur being selfish and u dont want to be on ur 1 - be a man and do the right thing - explain to her that u didnt mean to ruin her friendship - afterall friends last forever and its hardly as if ur gonna marry her so i’d shape up and ship out!
I think you are feeling how you feel so strongly, and I don’t think you are being selfish as rose12 said. rose12 seems to only be thinking about how you should feel and not how you actually feel.
What you absolutely need to do even though it will be hard and difficult is to talk with each girl. Very good long deep convos. Communication is the key. Let them know how you feel. They can only truly know if you tell them. Tell them you are confused. Apologize to both of them for what you guys have been going through. And remember there is nothing wrong with sending a letter to get the ball rolling. That way you can take you time and not stumble over your word.
I understand that all of this is very important to you and that you just want things to be fine and not so stressed and up and down. The best way to get there is communicating.
I’d say, for now, stay with whoever you’re with.
Being a 15 year old girl, I’d say that I would be painfully jealous, if I was either one.
It’s just over-competitiveness now.
And I’d definitely agree with what everyone said.
Talk to both of them.
Update all of us here when that’s done,
And we’ll have more to say.
Don’t feel guilty.
It’s good that you’re alone for now, and just take some time to work things out for yourself.
STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU’VE GOT THIS ALL FIGURED OUT.
Just give it a break, and try to give both of them space.