Love help: I’ve been with my girlfriend 2 years, living with her for the past year.

Keappon

I’ve been with my girlfriend 2 years, living with her for the past year.

I havn’t had positive emotions (love) towards her for the past 3 months, and have come to hate her. But, I’m moving away soon and have thought that it would be silly or mean to tell her how I feel when I could just keep pretending. I leave in a week. Should I tell her how I feel before I leave, or continue wearing the mask for the sake of peace and avoiding pain for her?

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teratot 8 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (0 minutes after post)

I chose to remove the mask when I decided to move away from my boyfriend at the time. It may hurt, but its better to let them know rather than to make them wonder.

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lbnme 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (27 minutes after post)

You should tell her! It is always better to be honest! It will be better than her wondering what happend. It will hurt at first but, truth is much easier to forgive.

Keappon 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (28 minutes after post)

But I’m not convinced that honesty is always better. Honesty will lead to her feeling terrible, but no good will come out of it that I can see. After I leave, that’s it, and it won’t matter any more.

lbnme 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (32 minutes after post)

Not to you! But, it will for her.

kkm77 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (50 minutes after post)

I’m a girl and i know i would be terribly hurt if my loved one told me he hated me… But if you exlain that it is more about you, you need time alone and something like that, it would hurt less, as far as i can imagine the situation. i agree 100% straight honesty is not always the best move we can make. people are fragile beings and we need tact when communicating our intentions and emotions.

Keappon 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (52 minutes after post)

Ok, thank you both for the ideas, I’ll definitely consider them.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 years ago (3 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Tell her, she spent a long time with you and she deserves the respect of knowing the truth,,Hey what if shee was pretending tooo..

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mily86 2 #
Hialeah, FL, US | 5 years ago (4 hours, 1 minute after post)

yes tell her the truth, if you cant tell her face to face write her a letter, that could help. But dont let her wonder that would be awful. I hope my boyfriend is not pretending!
read my post if you have a chance!
Good Luck!

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