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How do men want women to behave in a realtionship?

Do they want women to be submissive and to make the man feel in control or do they want women to be independent and not too needy? Is it a combination of both? There are so many conflicting pieces of information that when I am with my boyfriend I try not to say too much and I am constantly censoring myself in case I say the wrong thing. I am always thinking of ways to respond which I think he would like but it is very tiring. Please help.

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 minutes after post)

I think they want you to be yourself and be happy, but may have a conflicting urge to have you stroke their ego ad nausea.They want you to shine.

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vesseli offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (4 minutes after post)

men want that you are that you really are!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Yeah I like it when the girl just acts herself, and doesnt try to impress me. But if she can try to like things that she doesnt, its always nice, of course the guy must also learn to like things the girl does, even if we dont like it…. like shopping (shivvers)

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Bex offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 Add Friend #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Be yourself no matter what. If a man doesn’t love you for who you really are then he doesn’t deserve you. There will be a man out there who loves you exactly as you are.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Any man who wants you to be submissive is no good for you. As a man i don’t want that in a woman. I just want her to be herself. To be honest. You shouldn’t have to censor yourself or carefully think about what you have to say. Be truthful. I want a woman who can tell me anything, her fears, her worries. Just be yourself. Any man who dosn’t like you for this is not worth your time.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (33 minutes after post)

The point of a relationship is for two people to enjoy the other’s company. Both parties should not have to be anything they are not because then the relationship is built on falseness and won’t satisfy one or both parties and will therefore collapse.

My advice to you is be yourself because that’s what he has to love and vice versa in order for you to both be happy. This is the reason it’s hard to find that person you click with and that clicks with you enough to stay with them happily :)

There’re no rules for a girl or guy to follow to please the other because we are all different and like different things so being yourself and just hoping that’s what the other likes is the most we can hope for. Of course we all make allowances for someone we like but that’s a two way thing which allows us to appreciate the other more too but it’s within reason and not to the point of changing who we are completely. It’s worked for a long time that way and won’t change any time soon so don’t think too much into it.

Sometimes you might think who you have is perfect too but even then it can come apart and leave you thinking you’ll never find someone if it didn’t work with the one you just broke with but I guarantee you’re wrong :) You will find that right person it just takes a lot of sifting and sorting through the ones that aren’t right for you :)

So when you break up with someone and wonder what you did wrong, don’t! Just think forward to someone you will click with to an even deeper level.

Hope this helps somewhat.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (8 months after post)

ok

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