gay help: I am infatuated with another boy in my grade. - Help.com

I would say the best way to find out is to approach him and talk to him. You can tell by his body language– there are certain attributes that might be apparent such as swish, or just certain feminine movements. I’m gay and it’s tough to figure everyone out because there is no direct stereotype, but the best way to find out is to become friends, then check maybe his myspace or just simply talk to him. Do not make it apparent you’re asking because you don’t want to be rude or obtuse, so just take it gradually :)

I would be friends with him first, then slowly get closer… and then if someone accuses you of being gay (once your close) judge his reaction.

You should become friends with him first. Don’t jump to the conclusion that he is gay. Get to know him better just like one of his other male friends then you will be able to tell whether he is gay or not. If just getting to know him does not give you the feeling that he is gay, then he’s probably not.

gordo9 wrote:
Y do ppl just except gays like this? Its rediculous. Gay ppl are going to hell!!

I truly feel sorry for you.

That’s fine if I’m going to hell, I get cold so often anymore. :)

He gordo, don’t insult people they are not asking about your opinion on gays or otherwise. Leave him alone.

gordo9 wrote:
Nobody told me I couldn’t voice my opinion. Im just giving a fair warning.

Sorry, I don’t believe in hell, so your warning means nothing.

gordo9 wrote:
Nobody told me I couldn’t voice my opinion. Im just giving a fair warning.

you are free to express your opinion, you just dont have to be cruel or rude either;

Gordo you need to go somewhere else! That is all I have to say. Help.com does not discriminate or judge.

hah, it’s a fair warning?

I love seeing the irony of this. You say you found jesus and are obsessed with homosexuals going to hell now? Isn’t god supposed to love everyone who cares for others? So you’re saying the fact that I don’t have love for girls but care about others, devote my life to being caring and abundantly supportful is in vain?– I do much more it seems than you ever will gordo, I love others and do no discriminate. The world will renovate people like you and move them out– your hatefulness is just a sign of hate dwindling because you’re desperate to say something. The world is changing, get out of the past.

I think we need to leave gordo alone or ignore him, he’s probably used to people ignoring him anyway. Stay on point.

back to the original topic…

Okay, I know that it would be irresponsible for me to assume that he is gay just because I am and I find him attractive, but if he is straight, how can I explain why he keeps staring at me, among the other things I mentioned?

Anonymous wrote:
back to the original topic…

Okay, I know that it would be irresponsible for me to assume that he is gay just because I am and I find him attractive, but if he is straight, how can I explain why he keeps staring at me, among the other things I mentioned?

That is why you have to become a male friend first not a gay friend. Make sure you both are on the same wavelength.

I am in the same situation as you, I’m a sophomore and a closeted gay, and there is this boy I am infatuated with. I met him in sixth grade but it was in eight grade when I truly met him. We were bestfriends for a while but then got into a fight. Now I have him in one class and see him everyday. He has a girlfriend, but I always see him staring at me and giving signs, like standing next to me or complimenting my ideas when I talk in class. I remember in eight grade, when we were friends we would say I love you, but in a casual “bromance” way. I want to start talking to him again, but the school year is almost over and I’m scared he’ll leave before I get the chance to talk to him. I don’t know how to approach him.