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I’m a sex addict.

There I said it. The only thing that motivates me to do anything is sex and to meet new attractive women. Yes, i do have the line of only dating women that are over 21. I can’t stand having to ask someone if they can have or enter an establishment that serves beverages. Anyways, sometimes it makes me feel dirty. Like a male whore. Why is it when I try to clean up my act and not be with so many different women at once, they all run away. They only bother with me when i’m treating them horribly, lieing to them about where i’ve been or who I’ve been with. To say its the women i’m seeing would be an easy answer, but even the ones at church seem to have lustful tendencies. Like the dirtier I am the more excited they are to be with me. Meanwhile, its seriously giving me heart problems. The stress of trying to juggle so many women, its seriously effecting me. So I’ve stopped. Where is the happy medium. I would be happy being a one woman man, but it seems for me its either be a male whore, or spend week after week coming home to nobody. My guy friends are all going off getting married, so hanging out with them is not happening, and in truth the double life i’ve been leading is just turning everyone against me. My guy friends don’t really trust me anymore, they think i’m ready to sleep with their women the moment they turn their backs. My guy friends have stopped hanging out with me, as I have them though as well cause it seems like we were just drinking buddies, and when they chose to go further and start taking hard drugs, I walked away. My good guy friends are always worrying about their honey-do lists and can’t do anything. So going out with a bunch of guys just to have fun, not trying to pick up women doesn’t happen anymore. I find that when we did go out we took whatever we could get that day/night in the way of a woman (not thinking that one day that would end). Moreover, I find myself needing to see more than one woman because I don’t get all of my needs met by one woman. No offense to the woman that has stood by my side through thick and thin, but in reality shes boring me to death. There is no conversation, she comes in the house and turns the tv on and if the tv isn’t on, there isn’t anything there. We are moving in two different directions. She is trying to settle down and “just be happy”, and I feel like there is still so much left in this life to do. The other woman I’ve been dating has to finish finalizing her divorce (she moved out, was out of the same state, and was separated before we met) yet I feel like I was a rebound for her (yet she tells me that she has loved me). Part of me just wants to put an end to both of those relationships as well, and just be better off alone. And I don’t mean I want to be an island, but I guess I need to take the risk of losing these two and starting over. This time without the male friends as well to hang out with. Which leads me back to my original statement. The cycle of sex. Why can I not be content with a beautiful loving relationship? Why can i not make love to a woman? Why is it that I won’t stay at a job if there isn’t either a) enough money, b) any “eye-candy”? I get bored working for someone else, so I’ve tried going out on my own. I feel dirty taking scantily clad photos like i’m some porn douche bag. I want to be respected as a photographer, as a person, but the truth is I love seeing naked women. I’m buring myself, like I’m dead inside and the prodigal son. If anyone I actually liked was to be with me, sure at first it might be exciting (but I wouldn’t be relationship material) so I feel like I’d be dropped once they know the real person. I guess I’m the definition of a man boy. The fact that I’m not a man just sucking it up, and that I’m actually writing it on here just goes to show you that I’m being a boy trapped in a man’s body and that I need to grow up, right? Why is it that i’m so idealistic that I need to have a full package wife? The active gym type that will get back into shape after having children (and run the race of life with me and be active in our outdoor activities) model type, great conversationalist, elegant and classy. Does a woman not become elegant and classy until after you’ve married her? Is it that i’m such a male whore that no elegant and classy woman would ever have me? I wish this were true, but as soon as i stop doing this they instead don’t even notice me like I’m boring to them. As if what they really want is a james bond kinda guy that will take risks, sleep with countless women, and not tell about it. I guess the truth is I’m just not a nice person, I’m like a rabbit - horny all the time, selfish, and bored unless i can flirt with a hot woman. Maybe I’m more addicted to flirting than I am to sex, but I doubt it.

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