Love help: Culture shock for my parents?

so_sienzz

Culture shock for my parents?

I’m of a chinese race, but instead of being more asian-minded, i have a more western thinking. so im like a banana literally(yellow on the outside but white on the inside). Im going out with this Indian looking guy, but trust me, he’s not indian. He was born and raised in Saudi Arabia, but is of Sri Lankan citizen. And he’s like me, but a Kinder Bueno (chocolate on the outside, white on the inside). He speaks perfect fluent english and he’s totally my style, and my kind of guy.

The problem is, my parents are pretty traditional and im worried that they might not approve my boyfriend because of his race. I told my dad once that i have a boyfriend, but asked him if he was chinese, and he didn’t sound too happy about that. Imagine when i asked my mom! Her answer would be 10xmore catastrophic.

So now, my boyfriend’s really worried that my parents wouldn’t approve, and we both really love each other and do feel like this is the real thing. But how can I tell my parents without worrying or being paranoid of getting their blessings?

-peace out-

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Unfortunately there doesn’t sound like there is a huge amount you can do. If they are traditional people then you cannot change who they are. In time I am sure they will come to accept it however. I can’t say I have been in a similar situation of different cultures but I did go out with a girl whom my mother didn’t approve. I did my best to not let it get to me or affect either me and my mothers relationship or me and the girlfriend. Eventually my mother came to accept it however and things got better, so it can happen :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

hey thanks for the advice iknowyou. i do feel that my parents ‘might’approve. but they might just be reluctant or obliged to do so. i dont want them to feel that way. and they’re not really good with English and my boyfriend cant speak chinese, so it’s gonna be hard for them to get along.i wanna be open about him to my parents, but i hadnt told them yet coz im worried.

i told my dad about this though, at first i told him that i have a bf and he’s like “oh..i kinda expected that by the way you’re speaking.” he was calm and everything but then i said ‘what if i have a bf who’s not chinese’, then he guessed a few races, then he told me to just concentrate on studies and dont get too involved. and suddenly he doesnt sound too happy. he explained that its better if i was with someone of the same race and i understand that but…aicks..worried.

-peace out-

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Well at least he wasn’t totally against the idea. As in, refused to accept it or demand you stop seeing him. Obviously the situation is not idea but the fact that he was in some way accepting says to me at least that there is an extremely good chance that within quite a short space of time they will come to terms with it. It’s good that you are concerned about what your parents think, hopefully they will see that you do care but also realise that you have to live your own life as well. Hope things work out for you, take care :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

It would be easier for me to advise u if u told me how old r u.. if u r under 18, don’t tell them, because that relationship might not be so serious..

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 week, 6 days after post)

im 19. and he’s coming 21. sorry for the late reply. been away from help.com for quite a while.

-peace out-

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